When a family member is getting married, it is important to attend if at all possible.

What would you do if your brother-in-law planned his wedding on a day that you already had an important event that could not be moved?

That is what happened to the sister-in-law in this story, so she said she couldn’t come.

She’s getting pushback from her mother-in-law, which makes her wonder if she’s making the wrong decision.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITAH my BIL and his girlfriend are getting married. I don’t want to go?

So me (40f) and my husband (42) have been married for 10 years.

My BIL is due to get married on a day that I’ve got an important day where I need to be about three hours away from the wedding.

This has been in the pipeline for three years.

The wedding was booked a few months ago.

I agree that the husband should be at his brother’s wedding (unless the other event is something that he must be at.).

I have told my husband to be at the wedding with the kids and I’ll try and make the reception.

He has said that if I go to my thing, he wants to be there and support me due to the family sacrifices we have both made for this day.

I appreciate this, but it is his brother.

His mom needs to get over it.

His mother is furious and expects our whole family at the wedding.

I barely see BIL and he only lives 10 mins away but I have only met his child (1) twice and I have nothing in common with his fiancé.

She should just apologize for missing the ceremony, go to her event, then arrive at the reception.

I’ve been planning this day for three years, picked my outfit and invited my parents as they have helped out throughout the last 3 years.

AITAH if I just don’t go?

I feel that the last three years of planning has been wasted and I do not have the option of doing this on any other day EVER!

No way, if you have important plans that were made first and can’t be moved, go to them. The family should understand, especially since you will be there for the reception (hopefully).

Read on to see what the people in the comments on Reddit think.

Yeah, I agree with this commenter.

Here is someone who says it really depends on what the event is.

This commenter thinks it is a graduation ceremony.

This person says they can be disappointed if they want.

Yeah, this is on him really.

You can’t attend every function, and people need to understand that.

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