High school is a lot of hard work, and so is college.

If your child wanted a gap year between high school and college, would you support that idea, or would you insist that they go straight to college?

In today’s story, the dad is on board with the idea of a gap year, but the mom is not.

Let’s read all the details to decide what they should do about this dilemma.

AITA for not forcing my son to go to college after high school?

I(40M) got into a spat with my wife(F38) because I chose not to force my son(17) to sign up for college.

For context, after our son graduated she wanted him to go straight to college, he was accepted into a few and we have more than enough money to put him through ourselves.

However, our son introduced the idea of taking a gap year a few weeks before his ceremony, I didn’t mind, I was surprised but it didn’t upset me.

He even made sure he had classes he was going to do when it was over, accepted into college and all, so it’s not like he WONT be going.

His wife wants their son to go to college right away.

It did his ever upset my wife, she believed that he’s wasting his potential and time with the gap year.

Mind you, the boy is going to college, just NOT right now. He has a plan and so far it’s coming to fruition.

Now to be fair, my wife did grow up less privileged than she is now, so she and her family put an unhealthy amount of weight on being top of class and graduating and going to college and whatnot.

Which, to a degree I agree with, I do not want my son to NOT be educated, I just understand he doesn’t want to go right now. He will(and is currently) working for me and has a decently sized savings without me and his mom that he is steady building.

He’s firmly on his son’s side.

In the spat with my wife she told me I was being an unsupportive husband since we usually tackle things together and she genuinely was upset by it, resulting in a few harsh words being said.

I called her overbearing and said she is prone to being rash and reckless.

I personally don’t think this is something worth fighting over and tbh, I don’t think there’s anything to fight over.

He already is the youngest of his class, he has a good head, I feel like we should let him take the reins a bit, and if he wants/needs us, we’ll be in the next room over.

AITA for being an “unsupportive husband”? I feel like I’m doing the fatherly thing but not the good husband thing, my wife and I rarely fight and it’s really bothering my mind.

The parents need to be a united front and decide this together. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to let their son take a gap year, but he needs to hear his wife out about her concerns.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

THIS is what his wife is worried about.

Maybe the gap year should be after college.

On the other hand, maybe he’s too burnt out to start college right now.

A break from school could give him perspective.

It’s never too late to go back to school.

His parents need to talk this out.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.