We’ve probably heard the saying don’t go to bed angry.

But in this story, it seems like one woman had no choice.

Let’s hear this bedtime story…

AITAH for going to bed after my husband was dismissive?

My husband (41M) and I (32F) have been together ten years.

Tonight we were talking about wanting a shed in the yard for storage and office space.

He’s been wanting to clean out the garage so he can build shelves and a workshop.

Hasn’t everyone who owns a house been wanting to clean their garage forever?

He’s been talking about this for two years.

He’s asked me to go through things of mine which I am happy to do, but I can’t get to them myself.

I’m only 5ft tall.

So I said I would need him to get some of it down so I could go through it.

He’s 6’4” and is much stronger and able to get the heavy Rubbermaids down no problem.

I did mention that he also needs to go through his things too if he wants more space.

When I told him this he said “understood.”

Something tells me this understanding is a ruse.

I thought his demeanor changed slightly.

Like he was being short and dismissive.

I even asked if he was okay and he said he was fine.

I was in kind of funk already due to news that I had received that day, so I chalked it up to just me overthinking things.

Which brings me to the main point of my post.

Garages have caused worse fights. What else happens…

I found out today that my mom has been diagnosed with breast cancer.

I am extremely close to my mom, and my husband enjoys my parents.

He is not close to his parents so he has always been happy that mine are so involved.

This news about my mom was obviously concerning and upsetting for me, and I was feeling like I needed some emotional support.

I just wasn’t sure how to bring it up. I’d held it in all day and couldn’t keep it in any longer.

Yeah that’s big news to keep secret.

I let some time pass after the shed/garage conversation and I said I needed to tell him something since our daughter was finally asleep in her room.

I went on to explain the news and he said nothing.

Just sat with his arms crossed as I explained all about the diagnosis and how my mom was feeling.

The most he said was, “Uh-huh.”

Oh, man. Stone cold. But surely he’ll soften up.

Didn’t look at me or anything. Just stared straight ahead unbothered.

I didn’t really know what to do or how to react to his apathetic behavior.

I waited for any kind of response and it never came.

After some more silence I changed the subject asking if he wanted to watch a movie.

He shrugged saying I could pick something.

I landed on a movie on the screen, he said he’d seen it already and it wasn’t good.

So, I put on a comedy special for a comedian I knew he liked.

Yikes. Now OP’s trying to entertain this guy who only gives her an uh-huh?

I tried to make conversation and he fell asleep about five minutes into the show…while I was talking.

I was hurt at this point and feeling really dismissed.

I got more of a response when I asked him about a movie than when I shared the news about my mom.

So, I got up to go to bed. He stirred a bit and said his back hurt then laid flat on the couch.

I asked him to come lay down in the room and he said, “No it’s okay.”

He does this sometimes when he’s mad.

But like, get over it your MIL has cancer.

It’s really immature and I’ve talked to him about it in the past telling him that I feel it’s manipulative.

But tonight I just didn’t have the energy to say anything.

I knew it would lead to an argument about the same thing he brings up every time.

Which is him saying that I “make him sleep on the couch.”

I wonder if he knows the definition of gaslighting…

When I’ve never made him sleep on the couch ever. It’s always a choice he makes.

Now I’m wondering what I did wrong here to make him do this?

And I’m dreading how he will behave in the morning.

Will he be sulky or snappy?

Or act like nothing happened?

So, AITA here? Am I missing something?

What did I do?

Maybe she’s missing a supportive husband?

I genuinely can’t make sense of this. I feel like I have emotional whiplash or I’m taking crazy pills.

Help please.

This would be enough to make anyone feel crazy.

Let’s check the comments.

This person says, husband’s being Stonewall Jack***

Someone else apologizes.

This poster is like, OP married a baby.

Another person says, this partner is not good news.

This person says, say sorry not sorry.

His reaction to bad news is bad news.

With a partner like him, who needs enemies?

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.