When family members move in, the balance of give and take can quickly shift.

He welcomed his father-in-law with open arms, but when an unexpected conflict arose over who was responsible for his laundry, tensions quickly flared.

Read on for the full story!

AITA for not doing my father in laws laundry?

Recently my father-in-law separated from his wife and has asked to move in.

I welcomed him in, of course, asking for nothing in return.

But it didn’t take long for trouble to arise.

Fast forward some weeks ahead—my wife and I are doing laundry.

I happened to see his pile and just simply skipped over it.

Laundry isn’t a simple task in their household.

There is no laundry in our house, so we have to go haul it to the laundromat and pay.

So I was thinking, even more of a reason to do just ours.

But that was clearly the wrong answer in his wife’s eyes.

That night my wife starts yelling at me, telling me what a jerk I am for not helping him.

He defended his choice, but the couple still found themselves at odds.

I stood my ground and told her we were helping him more than enough, and that doing his laundry was 100% not necessary.

So we agreed to disagree.

Well Reddit? AITA?

He’s not wrong for sticking up for what he thought was reasonable.

What did Reddit make of this?

This doesn’t really sound like a fair set-up to this commenter.

This grown man should definitely be doing his own laundry.

Maybe his wife doesn’t have realistic expectations for her father.

On the other hand, maybe he really does need someone to show him how.

It’s only fair to expect a little give-and-take in a shared living space.

It sounds like this dynamic needs more balance — and quick.

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