October 26, 2025 at 3:20 am

Woman Thinks Using A Dating App While You’re Already In A Relationship Is Not Acceptable, But Her Male Friends Defended It As Harmless

by Heide Lazaro

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Dating apps are for single individuals.

This woman was on vacation when she noticed a friend who’s already in a relationship casually opened  Tinder.

Her male friends described it as harmless, saying they won’t even text the girls back.

But she could not help imagining how she would react if her own boyfriend did the same.

Check out the full story below and share your thoughts.

AITA for thinking it’s wrong to open dating apps while on vacation if you already have a partner?

I was on vacation with some friends.

I noticed that one of them, who has a girlfriend, opened Tinder.

This sparked a little debate between us. For me, it’s a clear no.

If you’re in a relationship, why would you even want to open a dating app?

This woman’s friends say it’s fine.

But my male friends insisted it’s fine.

Because, according to them, it’s not “real dating,” just an ego boost.

They said not doing it could feel “restrictive” or “controlling,” which honestly sounds like excuses to me.

And it is not bad because he is not gonna text the girls back or meet them.

But for her, if her boyfriend does this, she would block and ghost him.

So I answered that in the case my boyfriend did that to me, I would block him ASAP and ghost him.

Because it is a deal breaker.

Now I’m wondering, AITA  if I ghost my boyfriend if he did something like that?

Am I overreacting? Or is it okay to keep using Tinder?

Let’s read the responses of other people to this story.

Here’s some short but sensible advice.

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Big red flag, says this one.

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This person is siding with her.

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People are saying the same thing.

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And finally, this one says OP is not overreacting.

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When you’re in a relationship, loyalty isn’t optional.

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