November 11, 2025 at 1:15 am

Wife’s Hubby Told Her To “Deal With It” During Labor, So She Said The Same When He Screamed In Pain From Kidney Stones

by Benjamin Cottrell

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Love usually makes people softer at heart, but sometimes they end up just plain cruel.

When one woman’s hubby told her to “chill” during one of the most painful moments of her life, something in her shifted.

By the time he was the one crying out in pain, she decided to give him a taste of his own medicine.

Read on for the full story.

AITAH for snapping at my husband when he was in pain, just like he snapped at me during my labor?

I’m (F24) and my husband’s (M30), and we had our first baby boy about a year ago.

Honestly, my pregnancy was kinda rough and labor was super painful.

Like, I wanted a natural birth, and I was screaming and crying my head off because the pain was insane.

She didn’t feel particularly supported by her husband in this vulnerable moment.

My husband hadn’t slept all night and got kinda annoyed by my screaming.

At one point, he was like, “Can you just chill and deal with it instead of screaming so much?”

That kinda hurt me, not gonna lie.

But the baby came out a few hours later, and we kinda forgot about it.

But she didn’t really forget.

Fast forward to a few days ago — he suddenly had this crazy stomach pain. We rushed him to the hospital, and it turns out he had kidney stones.

The pain was sooo bad he was screaming louder than I did, lol.

So she threw the words back in his face.

And I was tired from no sleep taking care of our toddler, so I snapped and said, “Can you just deal with it for a bit? Why you gotta scream so much?”

He looked shocked and got really quiet after that.

Later, he told me I was being super insensitive and that it upset him.

I reminded him about how he told me to “deal with it” back when I was in labor.

Now they’re fighting.

Now he’s mad and calling me petty, saying I was being mean on purpose.

His family is also pressuring me for being “mean.”

So like, AITAH here?

Getting the last word shouldn’t be the most important part of a relationship.

What did Reddit think?

This commenter can’t help but notice how dysfunctional this relationship is.

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People who love each other usually don’t behave this way.

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Maybe these people just aren’t a match.

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This couple should have straightened this issue out a long time ago.

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The pain might have been temporary, but their resentments ran deep.

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Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture

Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.

As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.

When he isn’t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.

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