If your ex married a woman who wanted your kids to call her “mom,” would you be okay with that, or would you make sure the kids weren’t legally allowed to call her mom?

In this story, one woman is in this situation, and she chooses the second option, but her ex’s wife is begging her to change her mind.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for ignoring my ex’s request for a sit down talk between him, his wife and me?

I (31f) have two kids (11 and 9) with my ex (33m).

We were never married and our relationship was never very good so breaking up wasn’t the worst thing that could’ve happened.

For a while it surprised me that he left first.

He moved on quickly.

I always suspected his wife (32f) was around before he left me.

I know the two of them told me they were a couple less than five months after we broke up and in that same conversation they told me they were a team and everything going forward had to include her because the kids would know her as their second mom.

They told me to get used to hearing her called mom because they would not stop it and would actively encourage it.

The ex’s wife sounds vindictive.

I brought them to court and the judge added a clause about calling a stepparent/partner mom or dad.

This ticked them off but they still tried to show off what they could do as a couple for the kids that I couldn’t as a single mom.

Ex’s wife also told me that she would be the mother to their other siblings and she was going to give my ex a bunch of babies and that would win the kids over to her even more. She said she would be the preferred mom even if they never got to call her that.

Or she said maybe they would and my kids would hate me for separating them if I got so jealous.

She did the right thing to document everything.

I spent a lot of years documenting and trying to stay calm for the sake of my kids.

We used a co-parenting app for communication and they still sent messages through that about how she’d be favored and things like that.

They were scolded a number of times over it..

A few years ago I put my kids in therapy because I knew they picked up on the issues between the adults.

Things didn’t work out the way the ex’s wife had hoped.

My ex’s wife never got pregnant.

I know I’ll sound petty when I say this but it made me so happy after all the gloating and said the kids would prefer her because she’d give them a lot more siblings.

For a while I noticed she was looking more and more depressed and desperate when no babies seemed to be born.

Oh no!

Around July last year my ex told me the kids would be with me for longer and he would work out a make up schedule later.

I found out 6 weeks later that his wife had tried to take her own life and was in the hospital and that it was triggered by the news she could not have biological children.

She and my ex also told people that it was made worse by my son not drawing her in a picture of his family that same day at summer camp.

She did the right thing by getting the custody agreement modified.

I filed with the courts for a change in the custody agreement temporarily and it was granted.

She had to complete certain steps for the kids to go back into the house with her.

My ex and her were unhappy but since they used my kids as an excuse I did not want to take any chances with them.

She completed all the steps and custody was returned to 50-50 in February of this year.

Talk about oversharing!

Back in June my ex suggested the three of us sit down and talk some things through.

I told him anything that needed to be said could be done via the app.

He said face to face was better. That they wanted to improve the relationships so that she could be an equal parent and family member to the kids.

Both of them started info dumping about her inability to have bio kids and how it hurts her to know the kids don’t see her as family. How they want us to put away the animosity so we can all be present and there for the kids and that she realizes it won’t happen while she hates my guts and wishes I would give the kids to her.

She’s glad it’s all in the app.

I started ignoring the requests after first saying no because I do not think this will be a good idea and I do not trust them.

They do not want us to do it over the app.

The lucky thing for me is it’s all in the app and there are some concerning comments like they would hope I would let go of the no calling a stepparent or partner mom or dad rule and things of that nature.

When I did not reply and agree to meet up my ex started saying I was not putting the kids first and I needed to stop using everything against them in court.

AITA?

The stepmom sounds like a monster, and it sounds like she needs therapy. She can’t demand that her stepkids treat her like a mom. She needs to get help.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

She hasn’t done anything wrong.

Here’s a suggestion to go back to court.

The kids can make their own decisions.

Here’s a suggestion to only meet with them under very specific circumstances.

The stepmom needs help.

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