Imagine thinking that you’re happily married, but then finding out that your husband cheated on you nine years ago. If that affair resulted in a child, would you be willing to let the child come live with you, or would you be so furious that you would file for divorce?

In this story, one woman is in this situation, and she’s not sure what to do.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don’t want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover?

Some background: Me (44F) and my husband (45M) has been married for two decades and we have four kids in together; Shane (F23), Bea (F22), Charles (M17), and Ivan (M13).

All of our kids are adopted since I cannot carry a child to term but I treat all of my kids as if I birthed them myself.

Me and my husband has a wonderful relationship, we are high school sweethearts, dated in highschool and got married when we were in college, we rarely fight because we always address the issues we have and always tried our best to fight for our relationship.

It sounds like they have a great relationship.

We have date nights, our kids cringes everytime me and their Dad are together because of how sticky we are and affectionate.

We both have good jobs as well (I worked in a high position at a Call Center, while my husband works in tech), both earning good amount of money for us to provide a comfortable life to our children.

And we have great intimacy.

We are each other’s firsts in everything.

But her husband had a secret.

So imagine my shock when my husband told me this morning that he had an affair with a co-worker nine years ago and it resulted with a boy.

My husband told me that it happened when I was away on a trip with my girlfriends and he was feeling so lonely and stressed for a project at that time but he didn’t want to bother me while I’m out having fun because I rarely go out with my friends.

He said didn’t mean for it to happen and it never happened again but I don’t know if I believe him.

He didn’t even know there was a child until a month ago.

According to him, after they did it, he and his AP spoke about how much of a mistake of what they did and that it shouldn’t happen again.

Since then they never spoke to each other at work aside from when they have projects together. The AP ended up leaving their company after two months so they never saw each other again.

Now, just this morning, my husband told me that his AP’s parents contacted him a month ago and told him that she became pregnant after they slept together and gave birth to a son.

They said that they can no longer care for the boy since they’re old and the AP is in jail for the foreseeable future, they wanted to still have the kid with them but won’t be able to provide a good life for the child so they wanted my husband to take in the child.

Her husband wants the boy to move in with them.

I just became numb the entire time he’s explaining to me.

He told me of his plan to turn one of our guest room into that boy’s room and wanted to introduce him to our kids as their new brother. Said that I would love the kid because the boy likes anime and we would definitely get along.

My husband is completely ecstatic because he said the boy looks so much like him and is such a good kid, that the boy would be grateful to have a normal life and have parents that would love him- which is, from what I think he’s saying, me and him being the parents.

She’s pretty conflicted about what to do.

I don’t know what to do.

I know the boy is completely innocent and he didn’t chose his parents. But the fact that he knew about this child for a month yet hid it from me, and the fact that the boy is his blood-related child, which is something I can never give him is making me feel so horrible and making me feel a bit resentful for the child’s existence.

I’m currently locking myself in our bedroom and he’s been trying to get me to open the door but I just wanted to cry myself here.

I don’t want to care for the child. I don’t want to see the result of my husband’s infidelity. But I also pity the boy. So, Aita?

That is a really tough situation. Should she leave him, take in the child, refuse to see the child, or is there another option? I feel bad for the boy too, but I can definitely understand why she doesn’t want him in their home.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

I don’t think he has thought this through very well.

It really is wild.

Here’s a vote for divorce.

Here’s another vote for divorce.

This is an interesting idea.

Who knows what else he has lied about.

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