Isn’t it annoying when boyfriend’s don’t understand simple queues and tasks?

This girl shares how her boyfriend ruined her plan for his birthday by not clearing a simple misunderstanding.

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AITA for not understanding my boyfriend’s message and being so upset over this?

Key context: for my boyfriend’s job, he is assigned to different locations to work at and his schedule changes every week, so his work location wouldn’t be the same every week.

His birthday is on the 18th and he works the day before and after. At the moment, I am living at his house.

The texting gets a bit tricky…

One day, I texted him about going to this big reef fish shop he wanted to go to which is next to my house. His house is about 50 miles from my house. I told him that I can drive him to the shop the day of his birthday, the 18th.

Below are my text messages with my boyfriend from Sunday the 14th.

👩🏻 (Me): Do you want to go to that big fish reef shop and do you work on your birthday huni?

👦🏻(Him): I work 17th and 19th

👩🏻: Yay

👩🏻: I can drive us to that big fish reef shop and we can get kbbq after after if you want

She didn’t get that one!

👦🏻: Ok

👦🏻: My work 20 mins shoveling from your house

👩🏻: huh?

Then he ignores my question and doesn’t clarify so I forget about it.

The next day, he mentions sleeping over at my house tomorrow night.

I get confused right away because he never mentioned sleeping over at my house and I ask “why?”

They had no idea where this was going!

And he starts to seem annoyed and say “I told you I work on the day before and after my birthday”

And I am still confused because that seemed irrelevant to me.

He tries to explain again and mumbled about working in the same store that’s close to my house

So I assumed he is referring to the one store he worked at one time which is 5 minutes away from my house so I said “the xxxx store?” and he sighs loudly and says “ugh never mind, forget about it”

That’s so CONFUSING!

I ask him to clarify because I’m confused but he just gets super mad

I get up and leave because I’m lost and confused and upset about how he responded to me

Then I text him because I can’t really talk when I’m upset and he says “it doesn’t take an Einstein to figure it out”

What he meant from the text earlier, he meant that he works 20 minutes away from my house and didn’t mean to write the word “shoveling.”

He was being really annoying!

He automatically assumed I would get that message so he ignored my “huh?” message. He also thought that I would assume that we’re staying at my house the day before and the day after his birthday based on that message alone.

Since it’s convenient for him to drive to work and also because on his birthday, we were going to the fish reef shop which is also near my house.

He tells me that he thought I was smart enough to make that connection and said “why would I randomly mention working 20 minutes away from your house if I didn’t imply that we should sleep over at your house?”

He had the most frustrating response to that!

And I told him that other people wouldn’t understand him either and he said “well, you have a doctorate’s degree and they don’t”

From the messages above, would you have assumed that the message “my work 20 minutes shoveling from your house” meant that his work is 20 mins away from my house and that we should stay at my house or am I the asshole for being upset about it and thinking that he’s the AH?

GEEZ! That would make anyone angry!

Why couldn’t he just clear out a simple misunderstanding?

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.

Exactly! This user knows no degree is capable of reading minds.

This user knows the boyfriend is at fault here!

This user thinks the boyfriend is acting like a clown for making so many assumptions!

That’s right! This user thinks the boyfriend seems to have some issues with the this girl’s doctorate.

That’s right! This user knows the message was an honest mistake but the boyfriend shouldn’t have reacted like that.

Someone’s being really annoying here!

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