Imagine having a busy day but still wanting to spend time with you significant other.

If you happened to mention that you were tired, would you really mean that you didn’t want to spend time together, or would it just be a fun fact that didn’t have much relevance on your plans?

In this story, one boyfriend tells his girlfriend that he’s tired, and she got really upset at him.

Let’s read the whole story to see if she overreacted or if he really did mess up.

AITA for calling my girlfriend to make plans and saying I’m tired?

Yesterday my girlfriend asked me in the morning if I would like to hangout in the afternoon.

I promised my mum we would do Christmas shopping together and I had plans to attend a vinyl market ocurring that day. These are all things I mentioned to her on Saturday.

She didn’t give me any concrete plan but I agreed.

Later in the afternoon I found myself tired from the hectic shopping mall, but I eventually decided to go to the vinyl market and pick up my girlfriend after. I called her to arrange our plans.

He didn’t mean to sound like he didn’t want to go out.

She had no plan so I suggest a café she wanted to visit the day before. In the middle of talking I blurted out: “I’m a bit tired.”

It was an offhanded comment. I did not put much thought into it.

She then told me it was okay if I want to rest, she had no problem. I could go to the market if I wanted.

I know she really wanted to go out, so I asked her “Are you sure?”

“Yeah I’m sure, it’s fine.” So we hung up and I started gathering my things to go out again.

He tried to make plans after all.

Minutes later she sent me a message saying how she was confused why I’d call to make plans just to tell her I’m tired.

I apologized and told her I did not mean anything by it. It was entirely off-handed.

At that point it did not seem fair to go to the vinyl market, so I cancelled that and insisted we see each other. If I had energy to go to that market, I had energy to see my partner.

She shut me off.

I insisted because she was clearly upset, but she turned me down.

She was very upset.

Much later in the evening she blew up my messages, very angry at me. She really wanted to see me because she had plans the next weekend and she wouldn’t be able to see me (she did not mention this before).

Her last messages were: “I do not want to see you.” “I do not want to make plans with you again.” “I will give some days to myself.”

I was left confused.

She was cool at first, but slowly got more upset with me. I’m still trying to grasp if I did a terrible thing without thought. Am I the jerk?

His girlfriend really took that “tired” comment personally, like he was trying to make an excuse not to see her when it was really the exact opposite.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

This person explains the girlfriend’s perspective.

It’s all about priorities.

Another person is on the girlfriend’s side.

This might’ve been a straw the broke the camel’s back issue.

But this person takes the boyfriend’s side.

Dating can be complicated.

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