Imagine having big, exciting news to share. Would you want to share it with everyone, or would you prefer to keep it within your inner circle of friends and family?

In this story, one college girl was in this situation, and she chose the second option. Her aunt seems to have a problem with that, and it’s making the college student wonder if she really did mess up.

Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for not telling majority of my family about my success at Thanksgiving?

I 19 (F) have been working towards Dental Hygiene as my degree. The program is extremely competitive.

At my college, on average, 300 students apply every year. Only 30 students are given an interview, and 24 accepted.

Two days before Thanksgiving I received an acceptance letter.

For some context I am a very reserved person. I prefer telling exciting or important information to my closest family and friends. If I feel am putting most if not all the work into the relationship, I keep them at arms length.

Thanksgiving sounds awkward.

My aunt has been dating her boyfriend for 3-4 years now. My aunt is the host house for Thanksgiving and most other family events. The past 2 years her boyfriend’s family has been apart of our Thanksgiving and other family events.

I have tried getting to know them and grow relationships with them. They are a nice family, yet when talking to them I can tell they don’t care to build a relationship with me or my immediate family, excluding my aunt of course.

Therefore recently I have stopped trying to talk to them at family events, when they enter the house they do not acknowledge me or my immediate family, and do not care to initiate conversation unless I do.

She didn’t like being put on the spot.

Fast forward to Thanksgiving day my mom, dad, brother, and boyfriend are the only people who know about my acceptance into the program.

My aunt likes to go around the table and ask everyone what they’re thankful for, she started with me even though I was not at the end of the table.

Feeling put on the spot and seeing my aunts boyfriends family, I froze up a bit because I did want to tell the news to my family, but not my aunts boyfriends family.

I thought of something else to say, and we continued around the table.

She did want her aunt to know her news.

Later that night before my aunts boyfriend’s family was about to leave, I decided to finally tell my aunt as me and my boyfriend were on the our way out too to visit his family for Thanksgiving.

She got extremely mad at me that I didn’t tell everyone at the table earlier when she asked everyone what they’re thankful for. She scolded me a bit about how I should’ve told everyone earlier.

She then announced to the whole house that I had been accepted.

She doesn’t think she did anything wrong.

People came over to ask my about my acceptance which I did not mind at that point.

But it is important to note that my aunts boyfriend’s family did not come over to ask about it. Which I felt proved my point that it was not big deal not telling them in the first place, since they did not care to come over after my aunt announced it to the entire house.

I understand it is exciting news and she may have been excited for me, but I didn’t want everyone to know.

Am I a jerk for not telling the entire family about my success?

It’s silly for the aunt to be mad at her for not sharing her news with everyone. She can tell whoever she wants to tell, but she’s not obligated to tell everyone if she doesn’t want to.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person thinks it would’ve been inappropriate to announce the news earlier.

She might be overthinking it.

“Congratulations” would’ve been the appropriate thing to say.

Another person doesn’t understand her hesitation to share the news.

Just because you have big news doesn’t mean you have to tell everyone.

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