Imagine being really sick and needing to go to the hospital a lot. If your mother-in-law planned a family vacation she knew you couldn’t go on, would you be upset, or would you be happy to let everyone go without you?

In this story, one woman is in this situation, and she is really upset. She ends up letting her mother-in-law know how she feels, and now everyone except her husband has turned on her.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for hanging up on my MIL after she booked a family holiday that excluded me?

I (30F) have recently been really sick and in and out of the hospital getting infusion treatments. My husband has been my rock through it all.

Last year, we moved states because my in-laws asked us to. They have a micro family and want to stay close.

Since our move, they’ve never once come to visit us except after we bought our house. They visited for an hour and left to “beat traffic”.

The in-laws seem pretty selfish.

We’ve driven to them over 15 times (an hour each way), and they still expect we go to them even though the drive now wipes me out and risks my health.

I don’t have any family or close friends here besides them, and despite my husband asking several times for help, they always make excuses as to why they can’t visit even though they’re both retired.

I’m so glad her husband stood up for her.

What’s going on now is, my MIL and husband share a birthday. She recently called him saying it would be fun if the whole family went on a week long trip to celebrate and couple it with Thanksgiving.

When my husband said he’d need to check with me since I have appointments and you know, his job, she told him it’s best I “stay home and rest” while everyone else went.

He immediately told her no. He wasn’t leaving me when I’m this sick especially during the holiday. He asked if we could postpone until I completed these rounds of treatment and just stick to something local.

But it wasn’t that easy.

That’s when MIL dropped that she’d already booked a resort three hours away, spent “thousands,” and that if we didn’t come, we’d be ruining Thanksgiving and her birthday.

When he asked why she’d book it without confirming with us, she said it was the only week his brother was free.

That’s when it really hit me.

She never intended to include me and possibly my husband. Her only concern was his brother’s availability whom she sees everyday.

She decided to let her MIL know how she really felt…through sarcasm.

It felt like she either purposely booked the trip to guilt my husband into going without me or as a way to exclude us.

I was over it, exhausted, and just done with the lack of effort/care from her.

I asked my husband if I could talk to her and in the calmest, most sarcastic tone I said, “please don’t cancel your vacation. I really, TRULY, hope you have SUCH an amazing time on YOUR birthday. So much so that you forget we’re even there. Because we won’t be. Bye.” Then I hung up the phone.

Her husband is once again on her side.

My husband took the phone and put it in his pocket.

He told me, he had no notes and we carried on with our day.

Now MIL, FIL, and BIL are calling nonstop, leaving messages saying I was rude and disrespectful.

So, AITA for hanging up on my MIL after she booked a family holiday that excluded me?

First of all, her husband is awesome. He truly has her back. The rest of his family is horrible. The MIL is the one in the wrong for booking a trip to exclude her.

Calling her out on it was well deserved.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

I think these assumptions about the MIL are probably true.

It was definitely intentional.

Here’s a suggestion to move closer to her own family.

Here’s another vote for moving.

Her mother-in-law has shown her true colors.

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