Sometimes things between sibling can spiral out of control!

This woman shares how her sister has been mad at her for a long time because she couldn’t make it to her wedding.

Check out what actually happened.

AITA for missing my sister’s wedding

One day, my sister (38F) called me (40F) to invite me to her wedding. She told me it would be in one month at her home, which is about a 6-hour drive from my home.

This was in 2022, around the time COVID restrictions were being lifted. She lives in a less restrictive area than we do, so her restrictions were lifted before ours were.

They were never close enough to make extra effort…

She had been with her partner for about 10 years at that point. My sister has two children (12 and 7). I was happy for her.

When she called, she informed me that I was a guest, not one of her four bridesmaids. She also told me she didn’t have room at her house because one of the bridesmaids was staying there. I’m not close with my sisters, so this was okay.

My husband and I started looking at how we could make this all work on such short notice. I was in an online graduate program and had a major project due the weekend of her wedding.

UH OH…

My husband had an important work meeting on the Monday after that had been previously scheduled and he did not have the authority to reschedule.

My husband and I also have a 2-year-old whom we had finished toilet training that week and were trying to figure out how to not lose progress. We also discussed COVID safety because vaccines were not yet available for a child of his age.

We looked at hotels, and accommodations alone would cost us just over $1000, money we did not have to spare.

They didn’t want to go out of their way!

My husband is not inclined to bend over backwards to make this work ever since he heard her say something that indicated she might be prejudiced against him.

I called my mother to discuss this decision with her. She said that she thought my sister would understand. There was no discussion about helping with childcare while I finish my project or assistance with accommodations.

I called my sister about a week before the wedding to let her know about the decision and why. I expected her to be understandably upset.

They wanted to opt out of the wedding…

She started to unload on me on how she managed to juggle school and pulled her kids out of school to attend my 2018 wedding. This is true, but my parents paid for her room and watched her kids on a regular basis, including on this trip.

She also accused me of blocking her from meeting my son. When my son was born in 2019, she did not congratulate us on the birth and did not attempt to visit.

In fact, during my baby shower, she threw a pity party, which some of my in-laws still talk about. She has not bothered to ask about him or wished him a happy birthday.

That’s INSANE!

I have made trips every few years to visit my family and send birthday gifts for her kids.

I got mad and told her that it must be nice to have my parents available to help care for her kids. She got mad at me and hung up.

She has not talked to me since that phone call. I still text her holiday and birthday greetings for her and her kids, so that she knows I am open to talking to her if she ever chooses to do so.

This has been eating at me for years…AITA for missing her wedding?

YIKES! That’s a stingy situation!

Why couldn’t they make an arrangement for this once-in-a-lifetime-event?

Let’s find out what people on Reddit think about it.

This user knows this lady had enough on her plate already!

This user thinks these sisters can still make it work.

This user knows an invitation can also be turned down and that’s okay.

This user knows those were difficult times and this girl isn’t at fault.

This user knows these sisters didn’t have a deep relationship in the first place.

Somebody’s being a bit rigid!

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