Isn’t it heartbreaking when people would always find ways to use when you only have good intentions?

This daughter shares how her mom’s boarder kept using her mom for utilities and never did anything for her mom!

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AITA for telling my mom to evict her boarder?

My (31F) mother’s (56F) workplace has gone on strike twice in the last two year, and to help with some of the financial burden this has caused her, she has decided to rent out a room in her house to students.

This is where things take a twist!

Her first boarder (28NB) only rented for a month before finding a place closer to their school, but they were quiet, clean, respectful, and mainly kept to themself.

The current boarder (34F) has been renting since September, and is very much the opposite her predecessor.

I immediately got red flags from her after she told me her entire traumatic backstory unprompted less than 48 hours after we met, but tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, as did my mother.

UH OH…

This turned out to be a mistake; the boarder has been overly familiar with my mother the entire time she has lived with her, cornering my mother (who works night shift) as soon as she gets home to vent about the numerous dramas going on her life as if my mother is a free therapist.

She never cleans up after herself, takes showers in the middle of the day even after being repeatedly told that’s when it’s the most expensive, and constantly invites herself on my mother’s outings because she doesn’t have a driver license and dislikes taking the bus.

She also frequently shames my mother for “not eating healthy” while ordering takeout daily that she eats in her room and STILL hasn’t taken any of the containers to the garbage or recycling even after being asked every week.

That’s SO MEAN!

My mother constantly tells me how frustrated she is with her boarder, but I’ve noticed that what she tells me and how she actually acts towards the boarder are contradictory.

For example, the boarder can’t actually pay her December rent because she used up all her OSAP on takeout (and is unemployed); when she told my mother this, my mother went and bought her groceries.

I know that part of the reason my mother is giving her boarder so many second chances is because the boarder a recently out transwoman with ADHD, and my mother feels sympathy for her; plus, my mother was evicted from her last home back in 2020 because her landlord wanted to sell the building, and she doesn’t want to put someone else through what she went through.

That’s INSANE!

I also think that a lot of the issues my mother is dealing with are due to her not doing enough research before taking on tenants.

However, I’ve argued that the boarder isn’t my mother’s responsibility.

My mother’s financial situation is no longer dire enough that she needs to keep renting the room, and while she doesn’t want to make the boarder homeless, I know that said boarder still technically owns the apartment she was living in before moving.

Now she’s not sure if she’s doing the right thing…

I’ve told my mother that the best thing she can do is tell the tenant that she needs to move out by a certain date (which my mother technically doesn’t have to do, since no lease was ever created or signed), but she seems reluctant to take action.

Am I the AH for making this suggestion?

And if not, what do you recommend my mother do?

GEEZ! Isn’t that a bit too much?

Why can’t they just kick this person out?!

Let’s find out how folks on Reddit reacted to this one.

This user thinks this mom is being way too generous for no reason.

Exactly! This user knows the mom needs to do something about this situation.

This user thinks the best thing to do would be to get some legal advice.

This user knows the tenant is violating many rules here!

This user knows boarders can’t ever be beneficial to anyone!

Somebody here needs to take immediate action!

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