Living with someone long enough means eventually learning all of their pet peeves.

So, what would you do if your husband treated regular cleaning as a problem, even though he did the very things that he got mad at other people over? Would you just accept that’s how he is and move on? Or would you get into an argument if needed to prove a point?

In the following story, one wife finds herself at odds with her husband over cleaning habits. Here’s what’s going on.

AITA 40F and 41M cleaning dispute

I, 40F, just got into a heated argument with my husband, 41M, regarding cleaning habits.

We’ve been together about 15 years, and this is an ongoing issue.

He has these pet peeves about how other people clean that I think are too rigid. Some of this is also related to ongoing issues with his hypercriticism.

Her husband gets upset over the laundry room.

This time, it was over our daughter (13) bringing a load of dirty laundry downstairs, as she was cleaning her room.

To me, this is a logical first step in cleaning any space. Remove whatever does not belong in the room. Or in this case, a task that can be separated/started to optimize time. She couldn’t put anything in the washer because it was occupied by his laundry, which had been in there for days.

He gets really irritated when the laundry room piles up with dirty laundry, which is understandable because our laundry room is really small, and it obstructs the washer/dryer. However, if it’s kept in a hamper/bag, it’s easy to move.

He also has issues with how she does the dishes.

Similar arguments have occurred over dishes in the sink.

For example, when I clean, I will put all the dirty dishes in the sink as I’m collecting them, then put everything in the dishwasher at once as opposed to opening the dishwasher several times to put each piece in. This bothers him.

In fact, just last week, we argued because he got upset with her after he asked her to make sure her laundry was out of the machines before she went to bed that night (Monday night), but she didn’t.

She feels he’s being unreasonable and needs to change.

Mind you, this was laundry she had started that same day after school. However, the same issue had occurred where he had left his laundry in the machines all weekend and some of the week prior, preventing either of us from getting our laundry started.

Sure, keep up with your own responsibilities. Clean up after yourself and don’t leave piles of laundry or dishes for someone else to take care of.

However, I feel like he is being unreasonable and just needs to get over these things. Sinks are meant to hold dirty dishes, and dirty clothes belong in the laundry room.

AITA?

Eek! Situations like this can get sticky.

Let’s see what advice the fine folks over at Reddit have for her.

This reader has no energy for all of that.

For this person, everyone is wrong.

Here’s someone who would throw his clothes outside.

Interesting point.

Her husband sounds like a nightmare.

He needs to grow up.

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