March 2, 2026 at 6:55 pm

High School Girl Fell Out With A Friend, And Got Mad At Their Mutual For Remaining Close To Her

by Ashley Ashbee

Two young women arguing in a house

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Some friendships last for a long time for all the right reasons. But sometimes toxic friendships can last for a long time.

See why this person is conflicted about what to do with a friendship.

AITA for telling my friend she is a bad friend for still talking to someone who I don’t talk to anymore?

Three people are involved in this story: me and two others. Let’s call them Lena and Layla.

I have been best friends with Lena for nearly 8 years now, and I had been close friends with Layla for 2 years until she spread some rumors about me which I don’t want to get into.

Unfortunately, the drama is far from over.

It has been about 3 months since I stopped talking to Layla. My best friend Lena told me she wouldn’t stop talking to her since she was not involved in any way.

I didn’t say anything as it seems like it is her choice, and even though Layla really hurt me, I wanted to respect Lena’s choice. But a problem occurred not much time after we’ve had this conversation.

Whenever they hang out or do something together, Lena tells me about it. after this has happened for a few times, I sat Lena down and told her that I didn’t want to hear about Layla anymore as she had hurt me pretty badly.

She told me she understood, but pretty soon after that she started talking about Layla again. I told Lena that I already told her once that I didn’t want to hear about Layla anymore and again she said she won’t talk about Layla again.

So she put a stop to it for good.

I thanked her and thought we had moved on, but Lena has started doing it again once more for the last month. I waited some time, thinking maybe she would stop, but she didn’t.

After school last Friday, we had a fight about it. I told Lena that I felt like she wasn’t taking my feelings seriously and I didn’t want to hear about a person who hurt me every waking hour of the day. She told me I am vindictive and controlling.

Then I said to Lena that she was a bad friend for even hanging out with Layla in the first place. She called me the equivalent of an jerk in our native language and hung up. I tried calling her back but she wouldn’t pick up.

We have been friends for so long and I don’t this to get in the way of our friendship or maybe I am just delusional. AITA?

Here is what folks are talking about.

Definitely on purpose.

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I wouldn’t have told her she’s a bad friend, but it would definitely put me off her.

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It can definitely be a chain reaction.

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Friendships are supposed to feel good.

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Ashley Ashbee | Contributing Writer, Workplace & Culture

Ashley Ashbee is a contributing writer for TwistedSifter specializing in workplace dynamics, employee advocacy, and professional culture. Drawing on her real-world experience as a software consultant, she brings a unique, insider perspective to navigating office conflicts, toxic management, and trending professional dilemmas.

Holding a degree in Professional Writing from York University, Ashley combines her formal editorial training with her corporate background to deliver highly engaging, empathetic narratives. She excels at breaking down complex workplace dramas and translating them into stories that truly empower and validate modern workers.

Based in St. Catharines, Ontario, Ashley balances her time between the tech and publishing worlds with her love for the outdoors. When she isn’t consulting or writing, she can usually be found exploring local walking trails or experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen.

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