It’s normal to fight and argue with siblings when growing up, but hopefully you both learn to get along and be friends as adults.

So a woman was surprised when her sister showed animosity towards her, even though she didn’t recall doing anything to provoke it.

Now she’s wondering if she’s wrong for laughing at her behavior.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITAH for laughing at my sister for trying to compete with me?

My mother’s neighbor always has a black history cookout.

She was excited that I (33 F) was in town because I live far and haven’t seen her in a while, she’s happy to see her grandkids and new baby.

She did let me know my sister would be there, as long as she stayed out my way then period.

My sister, Nika (36 F), and I aren’t close and that’s okay. We share a father, that’s about it.

I do believe her mom is the reason why she doesn’t like me, her mom was strict, rude to her own kids, kicked her out at a young age.

But she hasn’t processed things properly yet.

That’s her mom’s fault, but instead of blaming her mom and dad, she blames me when I had no control of that. That’s why she always targeted me, so much worse.

I came with my husband and our four kids, Nika came with her husband and five. I greeted her because I still have respect, she huffed and ignored me.

That’s when her one upping started, I should’ve stayed home. My aunt complimented me on my curry chicken and I thanked her. Here Nika went:

“I was going to bring mine but I didn’t want to outshine anyone”. Mind you, everyone gave an awkward laugh because what was the point of saying that?

She clearly compares herself to her sister, and it gets awkward.

The comments did not stop but I ignored her and did my own thing. It’s weird because it felt like she was following me just to say these things.

My cousin and I were talking, she was saying how my kids are well behaved, how big my baby is getting, I’ve been going through postpartum so I did appreciate the compliments.

Nika wasted no time to jump in, she said her kids have more spirt, because she doesn’t raise “quiet kids.”

I let it go, the day was winding down, the kids were playing with their cousins. My husband had the baby, I sat next to my mom and the other older women.

Things got more tense, and people started noticing.

My aunt asked me how it’s been since the baby, I was honest and told her I was tired but I’m happy my husband is there. Nika is good at making people feel bad, she said my life must be perfect with all the help.

“Some of us bounce back fast, I didn’t get to sit around”. She did this unprovoked, like it’s sad that she goes out of her way to do this.

My mom was getting frustrated with her and told her to watch her mouth when talking about her daughter.

They might need to sit and talk.

Everyone heard the commotion and followed, my uncle was the first to ask if we were competing. No, we’re not, I asked him what we were competing for? We both got married with kids and pay bills.

That’s when everyone laughed and Nika stayed quiet because I guess she was embarrassed, after that everyone moved from her so all night she was sitting alone.

Her own husband didn’t comfort her because he was too busy flirting with my cousin, that’s sad.

Later that night, on Instagram, I received a message from her. She said I should never think of myself as a good person for embarrassing her like that.

AITA?

Her sister’s behavior is definitely wrong, but she sounds like she’s under a lot of stress.

What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their POV.

Something to consider.

Her sister could use some kind of support.

Another reader chimes in.

Yup.

Being a mom is not easy, even with help.

Hopefully, they can help each other instead of comparing.

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