Overestimating someone’s feelings for you is a common mistake.

This woman began to develop feelings for her male best friend and became more comfortable being affectionate towards him. However, she was flabbergasted to find out from a mutual friend that he was creeped out by her and thought she was overstepping his boundaries.

Ouch! That’s got to hurt. This woman’s thought process as she navigates her new feelings towards her friend is an emotional roller coaster you wouldn’t want to miss. Read the full story below.

AITA for supposedly being a “creep” to my boy best friend?

My best friend (20M) and I (19F) have been friends for 5 years. We’ve always had this close bond, and people would ALWAYS think we were dating. Even his parents and my parents wanted us to be together.

We would say we weren’t dating and that we were never going to, but there was always some type of tension between us that would make me second-guess everything.

Like, there was this one time when we were lying in his bed, and we would stare at each other for a few moments, then look away laughing. After that, I literally fell asleep on his chest, and he was stroking my hair.

I feel like, from that moment, I started falling for him hard.

It would be the littlest things, like him trying to tie my hair in a ponytail and miserably failing, or him saying a corny joke and smiling at me when I laughed, which made my feelings worse.

Her best friend started hanging out with other male friends.

For the past month, he’s made these new friends. They’re all guys, and, to be honest, they all come off as really obnoxious. They all just randomly come to his house when we’re together, and they just cause a mess and are really loud.

Every time they see me at his house, they ask him if he’s been “up to no good” with me. The problem I have with him and these friends is the way he acts so differently around them.

As soon as they come in, all of a sudden, he straight-up stops talking to me, or he’ll talk to me briefly and continue talking to his friends.

I don’t know why, but I wouldn’t leave his house early, even with them there, because I really just wanted to be in his presence since he’s my friend.

Well, maybe also because of my feelings for him. And let’s say his friends left early, he would suddenly become the attentive friend I remembered, and I guess it gave me a sense of comfort because it was like, “Oh, at least he doesn’t have a problem with me.”

Here’s the part that really stings.

Yesterday, I was at his house again, and his friends once again banged on the door because they love coming to his house uninvited.

All of us were sitting on the couch watching a movie, and I ended up resting my head on his shoulder, which is what we normally do when it’s just him and me watching a movie.

He moved away and called me a creep really loudly. His friends laughed. My heart DROPPED, and the words, “I thought you…” slipped out of my mouth.

He said, “You thought I what??” in response, and I just got my things and practically ran out of the house.

I was on the verge of a full-on panic attack, and I was in straight-up tears as I walked home. The moment I got to my bedroom, I straight-up fell asleep.

When I woke up, I told my friend about what happened, and she said that he told her that I’d been overstepping his boundaries and that I’d come across as a “creep.”

I feel horrible because I really thought he was okay with everything, and I feel gross. AITA?

Ah, the friends-to-lovers trope is a common romance narrative that a lot of women fantasize about, but clearly, boy bestie is only interested in staying friends. Hope she finds someone who deserves her affection.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who was stunned when her friends finally admitted the reason for their falling out.

Other people in the comments section are sharing their thoughts.

Here’s a fair perspective.

Some wise observations.

Some sage advice from this one.

This one takes her side.

And another reader calls out the best friend.

If he’s embarrassed to be seen with you, you’ve been friend-zoned.