Hair mishaps happen. But what happens when your stepmom is the one doing your hair, and gets it seriously wrong?

This kid shares how he complained to his dad about the haircut, only to be blamed for it instead.

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AITAH for cutting off my dad after my step-mom put a relaxer in my hair?

For background I am F Afro-Latina and I went to my sisters house to hang out with them and their mom works at a Dominican hair salon.

This is where it gets bad…

And I wanted to straighten my hair since I haven’t straightened it in 2 years because I’ve been trying to keep it healthy so I was really excited to get my hair done.

So the day after I arrived at my sister’s house I went to the salon to get my hair straightened. Two different people worked on my head.

My stepmom washed my hair and I detangled it since my hair is really thick.

I knew they’d have a hard time detangling it and my step mom’s co-worker blew out my hair. She was really rough with my hair.

She used a denim brush to pass the blower on my hair and I have type 4 hair so she was literally ripping out my hair. In hindsight I should’ve said something but they offered to do my hair for free so I let it slide.

UH OH…

While my step-mom’s co-worker was doing my hair she told me that having an afro is just a trend and that I’ll be embarrassed of my hair and that I’m gonna want to straighten my hair often.

It hurt my feelings because everyone I’ve grown up around told me that my hair is bad and that I should go to the salon and it really ruined my self-esteem. And her saying that just brought me back.

So after that I was upset but I tried to move past it and finally my hair was done and it didn’t come out like how I expected it to.

My hair was frizzy.

Instead of it being silk pressed it was like an okay blow out.

My hair only lasted 4 or 5 days so I washed my hair like usual I started to do my curly hair routine and my mom storms in the bathroom telling me that the bathroom stinks like hair removal cream and I’m confused because I don’t use hair removal cream and I come to realize that it was my hair that stunk like eggs and Nair.

That’s INSANE!

Me and my mom quickly realized that something was put in my hair because the crown of my head is wavy. Mind you I have type 4 hair.

No part of my hair is wavy. I am LIVID.

I have worked so hard to grow my hair out and make it healthy just for me to go to the salon one time and have someone who basically raised me and trusted work on my hair.

I am devastated, crying my eyes out because I have graduation soon and I look like a clown. My mom obviously calls my dad to tell him what happened. He told her that he was gonna call her.

I called my dad after because I’m really sad and I told him what happened to my hair and he gets mad at me and yells at me and basically tells me it’s my fault.

He was being so unreasonable about it…

Now I am furious because what happened to my hair is not my fault and I texted him out of anger and told him to never talk to me ever again for context he is an absent father and we only talk if I talk to him he takes no initiative to see me or even ask me about my day but he will happily brag on his Whatsapp about MY achievements that I achieved no thanks to him.

He responded and said “Really. Don’t ask me for anything” I said “ I won’t” and he said “Good. Cabeza de estropajo” For those of you who don’t speak Spanish he compared my hair to a brillo pad.

I am furious because my dad always without a doubt 10/10 will say something degrading about my hair and I have had enough. I came to someone I called a father for comfort and he just degrades me.

I left him on seen and then a couple of hours later I texted him and asked for an apology hoping that he might come to his senses.

That’s so sad!

And he just completely avoids what I said and talks about something else which is really frustrating.

Later that day my mom called my dad again about my hair and he was so nonchalant about it so I decided to block him because if you don’t care about me and my feelings why should I care about having a relationship with you.

So Am I The AH?

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GEEZ! That is really heartbreaking!

Why would his dad not stand up for him?

Let’s find out how people on Reddit reacted to this one.

This user is really sorry this kid had to go through all of that.

This user thinks this kid might be able to press charges against the hair dresser.

This user is hurt over how this kid had to deal with all of that.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a woman who finally blew up after years of being treated as the second-best sibling.

This user wants to know if the step-mom ever got involved in the whole thing.

This user knows this is violation!

Somebody needs to take some action against these people!

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Sarrah Murtaza | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

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