Years of Mistreatment From Her Parents Finally Push Woman to Leave Town and Start Over
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As someone who has kind, supportive parents, it’s always so depressing to read stories like this.
Because, as they say, you can’t choose your parents…and some of these folks just really aren’t up to the task, if you catch my drift.
Check out what this young woman had to say about why she moved out of her house AND she’s thinking about moving to a different country.
Ouch!
Let’s take a look!
AITA? I don’t know what to do with my parents.
“I’m F,21 and have constant communication issues with my parents, especially my dad.
Since I was 12, he’s been an alcoholic – cold, old‑fashioned, never hugged or said “I love you”. He only spoke to me when intoxicated or to order me around (fill his bath, make coffee, iron clothes).
Her dad is train wreck…
When intoxicated, he yells, breaks things, threatens, though never hits. Once he broke my phone when I was 11‑12; I don’t even remember why, but everyone blamed me. I cried myself to sleep, no one comforted me.
My mom never left him despite my pleas – I told her I was scared, didn’t love him, didn’t want to live with him.
She ignored it.
Mom started working when I was 7, rarely saw her (6 days/week), so I had no one to share personal stuff with. My brothers were my only support – they’re great. But mom treated me differently because I’m a girl.
This poor woman…
She forced me to graduate music school though I didn’t like it and begged to quit – she refused, saying I’d thank her later. As a teen, we argued constantly. She loves me but doesn’t “like” this version of me – she wants me to be someone else, calls me selfish, says I have anger.
She never apologises or admits being wrong. We’re not close, but she insists we “should be” as mother/daughter. She can’t stand being alone, so she clings to me – demands multiple calls a day, wants to know everything.
She’s had enough of dealing with them.
Now I want to separate.
I told Dad he ruined his life and is trying to ruin mine by controlling me – said I can’t stand him. I told Mom I want her in my life but not living together and not sharing every detail because I feel judged.
She cried, said I have no empathy, don’t understand her struggles. Yet she stays with Dad, believing she can “help” him though he refuses help – and because she fears loneliness.
I feel guilty. Now I moved to another city and plan to immigrate to another country, but I feel like if I do that it makes me a selfish ungrateful jerk.
Am I an awful person? What should I do? How to make things right?
AITA?”
Reddit users spoke up.
This person didn’t hold back.
Another reader said she’s NTA.
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Another Reddit user agreed.
This individual weighed in.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a man who offered to buy his parents a house with his lottery winnings, only to find out they think they deserve half of all his winnings.
And this person shared their thoughts.
It’s time for her to spread her wings and fly!
And you can’t blame her for feeling this way.
Her parents sound pretty unbearable and controlling.
She needs to get as far away from her parents as possible!
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