She Had A Premature Baby And Asked Everyone To Not Kiss The Kid, But Her Father-In Law Saw It As An Opportunity To Make Her Feel Bad
by Sarrah Murtaza
Grandparents do love their grandkids a lot.
But there has to be limits and rules to everything right?
This woman’s daughter was premature, but her father-in-law scoffed at her request that no one kiss her until she had a chance to be vaccinated.
Find out what happened next!
AITA for not letting family kiss my baby?
Husband and I had our daughter at 6.5 weeks premature, and she spent 12 days in the NICU to grow and feed.
They were already in the blacklist…
We faced lots of backlash – predominantly from my father-in-law – regarding our “no visitors” policy while she was in the hospital.
So far as for him to call me manipulative (behind my back, because he apparently doesn’t have the guts to insult me to my face.)
Baby is now almost 3 months old, 1 month 2 weeks adjusted.
We have set one rule in place that we don’t think is asking for too much: don’t kiss our baby anywhere.
I had hubby relay this to his parents, and I told my family.
Her family supported the idea!
My family was totally cool about it, and even my mom said that she’d never dream of kissing a baby when they’re so susceptible to things.
I thought his parents would be the same.
Wrong!
My father-in-law, and I quote (passed along by my husband, as I was not present for this conversation): “____, that’s sick.”
That’s INSANE!
I’m sorry, what?
My husband explained that because she’s still such a young baby, and was a premature baby at that, that we want to protect her from germs that are way too big for her tiny body and immature immune system.
He then went on to say, “so does that mean that we can’t hug her on her 18th birthday because she was a premature baby?”
And then “it’s okay, I know you just have relay the message.”
She was being targeted…
Which seems like he’s insinuating that I created this rule by myself and my husband is just the messenger.
Like, AITA for not letting these people kiss my baby?
I understand that they’re her grandparents and they love her and want to give affection to her, but can’t we do that when she’s not super prone to getting everything under the sun germ-wise?
She just wants to take precaution.
I know she’ll ultimately get sick with something at some point, but I feel like this is a pretty standard safeguard.
Why can’t the granddad understand it is for his own grandchild’s benefit?
Let’s find out what the Reddit community has to say about it.
This user has been a victim of baby kisses and knows how bad it can get!
This user supports the mother!
That’s great! This mom shares the rules she made for her babies.
This lady’s daughter was also a premature kid and she knew how to deal with the visitors!
That’s right! This user believes the father shouldn’t be allowed near the kid for a year!
It is so simple! Don’t kiss the kid.
Only if the father-in-law understood that!
If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.
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