Being a new parent is wonderful, exhausting and life changing all at the same time. One thing it definitely is not is easy.

If you had a newborn baby in your house and your friend wanted you to throw a party for them, would you, or would you tell them this is not a good time?

In today’s story, one new mom has a pregnant friend who asked her for a huge favor. She’s not sure if she did the right thing by saying no.

Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for not hosting my friend’s baby shower while I’m still recovering from having a baby?

I (30F) had my first baby (a girl!) six weeks ago.

I knew postpartum would be tough, but I wasn’t ready for just how hard.

I’m still recovering physically, barely getting sleep, my hormones are all over the place, and I’m trying to keep up with a newborn.

Her friend asked for a huge favor.

My friend Sarah (31F) is pregnant and due in a few months.

She asked me to host her baby shower at my place.

She said I’ve got a nice house, I’m good at planning stuff, and since I already have baby things around, it’d be “easy.”

She suggested some other options.

I told her gently that I’m just not up for it right now.

I suggested other friends or offered to help pay for a venue, but I really can’t host it myself.

She didn’t take it well. Said I’m making excuses, that it’s “not that hard,” and now she’s telling people I’m being selfish since she threw my bridal shower years ago.

I feel super guilty, but I also feel like I need to focus on healing and my baby. AITA?

Asking a new mom to host any sort of party is ridiculous! Her friend will understand after she has her baby.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

She needs proof so she can show her friend later.

Her friend never should’ve asked.

It was pretty rude to ask her for such a big favor.

She has no reason to feel guilty.

Hosting a party is never easy.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.