October 19, 2025 at 7:15 am

Young Woman Tried To Help Her Family When They Needed Rides, But When Her Mom Expected Her To Start Driving Someone She Barely Knew, She Refused

by Benjamin Cottrell

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Doing favors for others can be rewarding, but it can also become a slippery slope.

One young woman had no issue giving her siblings occasional rides, but when her mom asked her to start driving someone she barely even knew, she had to draw the line.

Read on for the full story.

WIBTA if I don’t want to take my brothers girlfriend to work?

I (20F) don’t live with my parents or siblings, but I occasionally help my sister and brother by driving them places because I have a car and they don’t.

I helped my sister by driving her to a doctor’s appointment today because my mom had asked me to, but now my mom is asking me to drive my brother’s girlfriend to work tomorrow.

She’s not so sure she wants to comply with this latest request.

I don’t really know her, and I don’t think they’ve been together long.

The first time I met her, she was short with me and clung to my brother the entire time.

If it were family it would be different, but she’s just not sure she wants to help out.

If my brother needed a ride, I’d give one to him, but I’m hesitant about giving a ride to someone I barely know.

I also don’t want to be relied on to help constantly.

So, AITA if I told my mom no to taking my brother’s girlfriend to work?

Setting fair limits for yourself is an important skill to learn.

What did Reddit think?

It’s important to set her boundaries early to avoid being taken advantage of.

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Services like Uber were invented for this very purpose.

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These people definitely shouldn’t be expecting rides from her.

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The way this request was posed rubbed this commenter the wrong way.

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Family or not, her time and effort matter.

She decided that helping out should feel like a choice, not an obligation.

If you enjoyed that story, read this one about a mom who was forced to bring her three kids with her to apply for government benefits, but ended up getting the job of her dreams.