Imagine being a teenager who has an agreement with your dad that you can take care of yourself and don’t have to spend time with your blended family. What would you do if your stepmom started pushing you to spend more time with them?

In this story, one teenage boy is in this exact situation, and he’s pretty frustrated with his stepmom.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITAH for not accepting my dad’s wife’s offer for us to split cooking days and for me to eat with her and her kids?

The background would be kinda long if I went into all the past stuff. But I (17m) just have my dad. I don’t have other family or my mom to live with. And my relationship with him was always non-existent.

He resented being left to raise me and he didn’t do a good job of providing for me. But he was all I had and for a while as a kid I wanted us to be close so bad.

He never wanted me to be his kid though and I found ways to accept that and even though I call him my dad we use first name’s with each other.

He sounds pretty independent.

We also have an agreement.

I don’t bother him or expect him to do anything for me and he doesn’t expect me to do regular chores around the house.

I buy and cook my own food and clean up after myself and that’s it for me other than sleeping.

I also moved from my old room to the guest room so I can have my own bathroom and privacy. Nobody else goes near my room or my bathroom.

He really keeps to himself.

I don’t interact with anyone dad has over or his wife, stepkids and new baby and I don’t ask for money or help with stuff.

It’s been 3 years like this now.

I used to babysit for money which is how I was able to buy my own food and stuff before.

He doesn’t spend time with his family at all.

My dad’s wife moved in 18 months ago and they got married and had a baby since then. His wife has three kids as well as the baby with my dad. I don’t know their ages or anything about them.

I wasn’t at their wedding either.

I leave the house at 7 every morning and I come back around 5-5:30 to eat. Then I leave again usually and come home around 8 and stay in my room until the next day. Sometimes I stay and do homework in my room but usually I’m at a friends house or the library.

His stepmom started asking questions.

My dad doesn’t get home until around 7:30-8 most nights and his wife and her kids have usually eaten by then. She does all the cooking for them and stuff.

I don’t know how much she knows about the agreement dad and I have. But she started coming home earlier and asking me questions about why I eat alone and wouldn’t I prefer to eat with her and the kids.

I always say no and ignore most of what she says so I can be done and leave again or lock myself in my room.

His stepmom wouldn’t let it go.

A few nights ago she told me she hated the set up and wanted me to eat with her and the kids and split cooking nights between the two of us. She called us a family and said families should eat together and split big chores like cooking and sit together and be.

I told her we weren’t a family and I didn’t want to change things.

She brought the baby up and tried to use them as a reason for me to give it a shot. I think she believed I wanted a relationship with the baby at the very least.

But I don’t care and I let her know that.

She’s really getting pushy.

She kept pushing the offer so I had to rush through my food and went to my room but she followed me up and kept pushing it.

And since that night she has brought it up and let me knows she’s not happy that I won’t give it a shot.

I think she tried to get my dad to say something to me but told her to leave it alone because I’m not a part of the family they’re making.

But she didn’t give up even then.

He does not want to spend time with his stepmom and her kids.

I’m tired of it but I know she is probably trying to be nice.

But she’s just some random woman so I’m not having some big heart to heart with her and I’m not comfortable with her trying so hard.

I find it weird when she doesn’t even know the first thing about me (she thinks I’m older than I am).

AITAH?

He needs to talk to his dad about how pushy his stepmom is being. Hopefully his dad could then make sure the stepmom knows about their agreement.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person calls the whole family weird.

Another person doesn’t think the stepmom was trying to be nice.

This person has questions and a suggestion.

Here’s a theory about what the stepmom really wants.

She’s probably not just trying to be nice.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.