Remote Employee’s Boss Asked Them To Spy On A Coworker With A Baby At Home, But They Refused To Become The Office Snitch

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Some bosses don’t just manage work — they manage chaos.
So when one employee was instructed to spy on a top-performing coworker just because she was a new mom, they realized just how toxic their workplace really was.
Keep reading for the full story.
Boss asked me to spy on coworker who just had a baby
My boss called me and straight up asked me to log notes of when my coworker was slacking, making errors, and when her baby was being disruptive (remote employees).
My boss was like she needs daycare.
The employee is appalled by this problematic request.
It’s not like we have cameras up in her house and can see if she’s working all the time.
I was shocked he would even put me in this position.
By all accounts, this coworker is an exemplary employee.
Besides the fact she was and is a top performer before and after she left for FMLA, and they demoted her when she got back from FMLA.
She’s always done a great job, and I’ve never had any problems.
They feel it’s totally inappropriate for their boss to ask this of them.
I just don’t want my manager putting me in this position against a fellow coworker.
My job description doesn’t say to spy on my coworkers. It puts me in an ethically and professionally difficult situation.
My boss is a manipulator and a proven liar.
But still they worry about the consequences of saying no.
I feel like going to him he’s going to get defensive, and going to HR is going to put an X on my back and tell him anyways, or worse it could come out later if this coworker takes action with HR that my boss asked me to do that and I look like a jerk despite I’m not going to ever follow his request.
What kind of boss would say something like this to their employees?
Redditors chime in with their thoughts.
It’s best to give this poor coworker a warning.

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This commenter urges the employee to shut down the boss’ claims whenever they can.

In toxic workplaces like these, it’s important for coworkers to stick together.

What’s happening here is really unjust.

At the end of the day, this employee chose respect over revenge — and it was the right choice.
When management plays games like this, nobody wins.
Thought that was satisfying? Check out what this employee did when their manager refused to pay for their time while they were traveling for business.
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Benjamin CottrellBenjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture
Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.
As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.
When he isn’t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.
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Categories: Life & Drama
Tags: · bad boss, boss, coworker stories, ENTITY, FMLA, hr, new mom, picture, reddit, spying, top, toxic workplace

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