Her Mom Demanded She Tutor Her Failing Sister—So She Refused to Help the Family’s “Golden Child”
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Imagine living with your mom and your sister, but your sister is clearly the golden child. She gets whatever she wants, and she gets away with everything.
If your mom told you that you needed to tutor her because she’s failing in school, would you agree to do it or refuse?
In this story, one teenage girl is in this exact situation, and she refuses to help. Her mom is mad at her about it, but she doesn’t plan to back down. However, she’s wondering if that makes her a bad person.
Let’s read the whole story to decide.
AITA for telling my mom to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won’t be helping my sister?
My parents had me (16f) and my sister (14f).
We lost our dad a few years ago.
My mom has heavily favored my sister since she was born. To the point she has raised my sister to be a pretty bad person to be around.
At least she is to me.
She eventually found out why her mom favored her sister over her.
Dad noticed it and called mom out and at some point they did therapy where apparently it came to light that the grandmother she named me after, was a person my mom had a lot of resentment toward.
Why she named me after her then I will never really know.
She claimed not to realize at the time. But she at least has some resentment toward me based on that.
She also had some PPD when I was born and claimed the early months with me were a very dark time.
This sounds really frustrating.
Whenever we fight, she takes my sisters side regardless of what happens.
Sister takes food off my plate? Won’t get in trouble. If I yell at her for it? I get punished. If I take food off my sisters plate in return? I get punished.
Sister takes something from my room? Nothing said. I bang on her door after she locked it and try to get it back? Punished for harassing my sister and making noise.
I tell my mom about this stuff happening? She says something about learning how to share or my sister being the baby or my sister needing more so let it go.
I hope her sister is lying.
My sister loves to gloat that mom loves her more.
My sister has told me that mom has told her she loves her but tolerates me.
My sister told me mom wishes I had died instead of dad. She told me they talk about that stuff.
She also told me after dad died mom pulled all the money from my college savings and put it into hers.
This is awful!
My sister also lies to mom and claims I did stuff when she feels like I didn’t get in enough trouble recently.
In June she got me grounded for the whole month by breaking her laptop and claiming I had done it. She knew it would be believable too because I resented mom for buying my sister a brand new gaming laptop while I had to buy a really cheap second hand one myself, with money from my birthday and Christmas.
Mom didn’t even let me say anything and my sister gloated that mom will always believe her over me.
But her sister definitely isn’t perfect.
It came to my mom’s attention a few months ago that my sister is struggling in school in a couple of places and she can’t seem to catch back up easily.
But I always had good grades. I could even graduate early in theory, if my school offered that. They don’t.
My mom is aware of this from past years. So she told me a couple of weeks ago that I need to start tutoring my sister before she gets into a hole she can’t climb out of.
Not gonna happen!
I told my mom I won’t help my sister.
Mom told me I will and it’s my duty to help.
I told her to spend money on a tutor for her favorite daughter because I won’t do a thing to help either of them with this. I told her they don’t deserve my help.
Her mom is pretty upset.
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Mom asked how I could put my sister’s future at risk.
I shrugged.
Mom called me names and slammed a door when she left me.
The tension is high because of this and my sister is loving it. AITA?
Her sister loves this? She loves that she’s failing and that her mom is trying to force OP to tutor her? I say, let her sister fail. Maybe she’ll stop being the golden child.
Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.
Here’s some advice.
Another person has a good suggestion.
Hopefully, she can do this.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a mom who can’t figure out why her babysitter quit after what she thought was a routine question.
I’m sure she wants to!
The comments are full of great suggestions. I hope OP takes them. If she gets her associates degree before she even graduates from high school, ideally while living with another family member, that would give her a huge advantage.
She deserves so much better.
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