This Thread Breaks Down Why It’s Better to Be Kind Than Nice
Recently, somebody tweeted the following…
When I describe East Coast vs West Coast culture to my friends I often say “The East Coast is kind but not nice, the West Coast is nice but not kind,” and East Coasters immediately get it. West Coasters get mad. 😂😂😂
— Jordan Green 🖖🏿 🌈 💚 (@jordonaut) January 21, 2021
Jordan went on to explain what he really means.
Niceness is saying “I’m so sorry you’re cold,” while kindness may be “Ugh, you’ve said that five times, here’s a sweater!” Kindness is addressing the need, regardless of tone.
— Jordan Green 🖖🏿 🌈 💚 (@jordonaut) January 21, 2021
I’m a West Coaster through and through—born and raised in San Francisco, moved to Portland for college, and now live in Seattle. We’re nice, but we’re not kind. We’ll listen to your rant politely, smile, and then never speak to you again. We hit mute in real life. ALOT.
— Jordan is on break until April (@jordonaut) January 21, 2021
So often, we West Coasters think that showing *sympathy* or feeling *empathy* is an act of kindness. Sadly, it’s really just a nice act.
Kindness is making sure the baby has a hat. (s/o to breenewsome and BlackAmazon) https://t.co/eXMvatdLCx
— Jordan is on break until April (@jordonaut) January 21, 2021
When you translate this to institutions or policy, you’ll see alot of nice words being used, & West Coast liberals/radicals are really good at *sounding* nice. But I’ve seen organizers & activists from other places get frustrated because nothing happens after ALOT of talk.
— Jordan is on break until April (@jordonaut) January 21, 2021
Nothing happens after the pronoun check-ins and the icebreakers. It’s rare we make sure that people’s immediate needs are addressed. There’s no kindness. You have people show up to meetings hungry, or needing rides home, and watching those with means freeze when asked to help.
— Jordan is on break until April (@jordonaut) January 21, 2021
As we begin to “get back a sense of normalcy” or “re-calibrate” to what people in Blue States™ think is Right™ and Just™, I want us to keep in mind the difference between Niceness and Kindness. If something sounds nice, doesn’t mean that its kind.
— Jordan is on break until April (@jordonaut) January 21, 2021
