She Cancelled Her Family’s Thanksgiving Gathering After Grandparents Call Her Brother’s New Baby A “Real” Grandchild
by Matthew Gilligan
Folks, the holidays are approaching in a hurry and you know what that means…
Family drama to the max!
And today we have a story from a woman who is a little ticked off at her parents and she asked the folks on Reddit if she went a little too far when she canceled Thanksgiving plans.
She started with the background to her situation…
AITA for canceling the plans for Thanksgiving after my parents called my brother’s baby their “first grandchild”?
I (32f) have been with my wife Ava (34f) for 8 years now, but we’ve been married for 5.
She was a single mom of three kids when we started dating, she had two daughters (now 10 & 12) and a son (now 16). I’ve watched these kids grow up, I’ve read the bedtime stories, done bath time, the first days of school, pta meetings, all of it. I very much consider them to be my kids, and they’ve been calling me mom for almost 6 years now.
There are other kids in the picture.
My brother Ivan (28m) just had a baby girl with his fiancé Sara (27f). I love my niece, and my kids adore their cousin. My kids have been the only grandchildren on my side of the family since Ava and I got together, and there’s never been a moment where the kids and my wife were treated like they didn’t belong.
My brother is their uncle, my mom and dad are their nana and pop— the kids see my family as their family and I always thought that my family felt the same way about them.
And then her mom said something that upset her and her kids.
The kids and I were over at my brother’s house just hanging out, and my parents ended up dropping by with gifts for my niece. Ivan laughed when he saw the toys and told our mom and dad that they were going to end up spoiling her rotten. My mom said since my niece is their first grandchild of course they have to spoil her.
My kids were sitting in the living room with all of us and my youngest daughter looked hurt when she realized what my mother said. My son and my 12yo didn’t fully react to it, but I could tell it bothered the both of them too.
Sara spoke up and said “oh you mean first grandbaby, not first grandchild.”
But things got uglier.
My dad shook his head and replied that my niece was their first grandchild.
I didn’t want my kids to keep sitting there and listening to that so I handed my son my keys and told him to wait in the car with his sisters. When they were gone, I asked my parents why the hell they’d say that my kids weren’t their grandchildren, and my mom said they couldn’t be their grandchildren because they weren’t really my children.
So she decided to lay down the law.
My wife and I were going to be hosting Thanksgiving at our house this year, but I told my parents that if they didn’t view my kids as their family, then they could just host a meal at their own house with their “real” family while I spent the holiday with mine.
I left before they could say anything else to me, and my wife and I have reiterated to the children that they will always be my kids and I will always be their other mom, regardless of our DNA.
And it didn’t go over very well.
My brother is angry with me now because he thinks I reacted too harshly, and that I should try to see where my parents are coming from. My mom texted saying that she and my dad love the kids, but they still aren’t their grandchildren, and she hopes that we can come to understand that because she doesn’t want this to ruin my niece’s first thanksgiving.
I haven’t replied back. I meant what I said, but I’m worried that maybe I’m reacting too harshly.
Check out what Reddit users said about this.
This person said she’s NTA and that her sister-in-law ROCKS.
Another Reddit user is also a fan of Sara.
This individual said everyone besides Sara SUCKS.
Another person said she’s NTA and that her parents are awful.
And one Reddit user also said she’s NTA and also praised Sara.
Sounds like this was a long time coming.
Well, at least she got it all off her chest.