July 9, 2024 at 4:21 pm

Post Partum Blues Turned Pregnancy Dream Into A Nightmare, And Now Hubby Is Having Second Thoughts About The Relationship

by Benjamin Cottrell

Source: Pexels/ Amina Filkins, Reddit/AITAH

This couple always wanted children, so when his wife became pregnant, it seemed like a dream come true.

But once boundaries started getting crossed, things turned into a nightmare.

Now, the husband is questioning every decision he’s made so far.

Read on to find out the details!

AITAH for wanting to divorce my postpartum wife?

It’s stupid to think I’m at this point, but here I am.

My soon-to-be-ex wife (28F) and I (29M) have wanted kids for years and we were thrilled when she finally got pregnant last year.

From day one, I wanted to be the most supportive husband and future father I could be.

Her father was never involved in her life. I used to work as a tech in labor and delivery, and my brother, to put it kindly, is not the most involved father.

I saw too many problems up close when it came to lacking husbands, and I would be ****ed before I made the same mistakes.

It sounds like this couple got everything they ever wanted. What could possibly go wrong?

The problem is, roughly 4 weeks into her pregnancy, everything started going downhill.

She stopped wanting intimacy. Fair enough. Hormones and stress make that a problem, so I went full stop.

But then she didn’t want any physical interaction. No cuddling, no kissing, slowly becoming more and more distant.

The problems went beyond physical intimacy.

Her eating constantly changed and she was terrible about it.

She would demand I get her something all day then the moment I give it to her she wants something else, screaming at me.

OK, again, hormonal issues, I get it. No problem.

She never let me to go any appointments or any of the groups she went to and she spent more time away.

She became cold, bitter and constantly angry at me. This went on for months.

Before long, the disagreements escalated.

She slapped me a couple times when I forgot one of her dozens of tasks she assigned me during the day because she stopped doing anything for the house a month into the pregnancy.

Sure, she’s pregnant, I get it. Moving around is hard, but she wouldn’t even do laundry about 4 weeks in, and by 5 weeks, I did everything.

This husband is doing more than his fair share, yet the trouble continued.

I’m also the primary source of income. I barely sleep and I’m running on fumes.

She made me sleep in the guest room and would always try and pick fights. I never once raised my voice, my hand, or my tone.

I sat there and constantly mentally reminded myself this isn’t her and this would all be worth it.

She didn’t want me to make any baby decisions. No name, no work on the nursery, nothing.

Pregnancies require a lot of patience, but this spouse is about to get pushed too far.

One month before she delivered, she yelled how useless I am and how I don’t do anything and that she’s staying with her mother.

She didn’t let me get her anything or come check on her. She threatened to divorce me and get a restraining order if I even called her.

A couple weeks back, I found out about the birth of my son from a Facebook post. She posted it with her mother and some family.

It broke me. I tried to go to the hospital and visit. They had security kick me out.

This husband has had enough, and he’s about to get even.

After months of outright hatred, anger and abuse thrown at me 24/7, I had it. Odds are I’m not even on the birth certificate.

I opened a new account and all my deposits go there. I took half out of our joint account.

She never bought baby stuff ahead of time, who knows what that money was going towards, so now that she has to buy supplies for our son she’s used up every cent.

I’ve gotten a lawyer. The house is mine. I’m the only one who spent money on it in any way. I’ve sent the rest of her stuff to her mother’s house.

There are a few more arrangements to be made.

I’m demanding a paternity test. I’m not spending another cent until I get verification it’s my son.

I’m absolutely divorcing her. She chose the stay at home life.

If she cheated, she’s done for.

Her mother has money for a couple weeks stay, but not even close to enough for full time support.

If he is my son, I will absolutely be getting my rights as a father for a relationship.

But then he receives a surprising phone call.

Last week, my soon-to-be-ex called. She was practically hyperventilating.

She wanted to come home. She was crying how it was all a mistake.

She’s not staying with her mother. She’s at a friend’s house. She wants to come home. She wants our son to have his father.

I told her I don’t believe he is my son. Why would would she pull this **** if he is?

Show me a paternity test, and I’ll do everything I can for him, and him only.

Now he has a tough decision to make.

She wants to meet tomorrow at a park so I can talk to her.

I said sure, so I can finally say everything I should have said months ago to her face.

My parents are hoping we can make up, but they absolutely understand if I won’t.

My brother is a deadbeat, so I don’t care what he has to say, but my sister thinks I should at least hear her out.


Wow, so many twists and turns in this story. Should the husband meet with his soon-to-be-ex wife one last time to set the record straight?

Let’s see what Reddit had to say.

It seems like there’s one issue this redditor just can’t look past.

Source: Reddit/AITAH

This user offers a grave warning to the weary husband.

Source: Reddit/AITAH

The husband isn’t the only one who smells something fishy.

Source: Reddit/AITAH

This redditor wanted to reserve judgement at first…

Source: Reddit/AITAH

It seems like the Reddit jury has delivered a verdict: This husband is innocent.

Sure, marriage is for better or worse, but sometimes you can’t get lower than rock bottom.

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