Throwing weddings is one of the toughest AND most expensive things a woman will ever do.

This couple is going through a lot because of a fancy wedding dress that the bride doesn’t want to give up!

Ahem… a SECOND wedding dress.

Yeah…

Let’s find out what the heck is going on….

AITA For Not Buying My Fiancé A Second Wedding Dress That’s More than 50% The Total Budget?

My (F49) fiancé (F32) wants me to buy her a new wedding dress that’s over 50% the total wedding budget after I already bought her a $8,600 dress.

I’m marrying the love of my life who is a member of a Native American tribe and lives on a reservation in my city.

Things were rough for them before the wedding.

I was involved with this tribe before I met her, buying an older woman a mobile home to put on her land when her daughter went to prison leaving her three grandkids to raise when she was living in a 15’ travel trailer.

She managed to get the kids out of foster care due to this.

This greased the wheels to get the council to approve us having our wedding on the reservation.

I’m paying for everything and have a $60,000 budget.

This seems like a very one-sided wedding…

There will be traditional dancers, drummers, and a traditional feast all catered by women on the reservation.

We have an 80 person guestlist—the only people coming on my side is my mother and my adult nephew.

Yes, I’m spreading my money around on the reservation, trying not to be obnoxious about it.

Like I said, I’ve seen the poverty many of them go through and I love that my wedding is bringing money there.

She wants everything to be the way her fiancé wants.

My fiancé said she dreamed of her wedding since she was a little girl. I could care less about weddings, tbh, so I’ve let her be the only ‘bride’.

I’m going to wear a black gown with tuxedo elements on top to kind of stand in as a ‘groom’. This way all the attention will be on her.

My only rule was that the budget was $60,000 FIRM, not a penny more, and I hired a wedding planner she had to work with to get everything within that budget.

The bride had her ways.

She went out with her girlfriends and decided on a beautiful $8,600 dress. She loved it. It was purchased and fitted.

Great.

It’s three months until the wedding (we’re doing November because it’s way too hot to have a summer wedding out here). She was continuing to get things ready with the tribe and the planner.

This is where things got rough.

One of the tribal elders brought up her dress. He said she should wear a traditional tribal gown made by one of their artisans.

She sat me down to tell me something ‘serious’ and explained that she couldn’t wear the gown she bought. She needed a traditional tribal gown.

I said to get a quote from the artisan and maybe we could get a partial return and/or sell the other gown to cover it.

The price of the dress was insane!

The artisan’s price? $33,000!! It’s going to be covered with beadwork and she needs to get started NOW.

I said, well it’s a good thing we already have a gown. She said she would not humiliate herself and dishonor her tribe by wearing the wrong gown.

I said I can’t approve this cost.

She wasn’t falling for this.

It would throw the budget out the window. She says I have millions of dollars, and this is our wedding and I’m being ridiculous.

Yes, I have money. I live off 4% as someone semi-retired. I have this money because I KEEP TO THE BUDGETS I SET.

She is being extremely unreasonable.

Now she’s not talking to me except to remind me every day that if the artisan doesn’t start now, she won’t have a dress.

I don’t know what to do.

This wedding seems to be going through a rough patch.

Let’s find out what Reddit users think about this wedding dress.

This user knows what the fiancé wants out of this marriage.

Yups! This person has a hearty advice!

This user wants to know some important information before concluding.

We know! The amount for a dress is insane!

This person wants this girl to be more mindful with her money and generosity.

The dress or being married to the love of her life?

Make a choice!

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