Would you invite your mother to your wedding even if you didn’t get along with her or were hardly even in contact with her?

This man doesn’t want to let his estranged mom be a part of his special day, but his mom wants to attend his wedding. He’s not sure what to do.

What do you think? Read the full story and weigh in.

AITA for not letting my mom come to my wedding after she ignored me my whole life

I (26M) am getting married to my fiancée (let’s call her Sarah, 25F) in a few months.

And I’m super excited about it.

But there’s one big issue with all the planning—my mom.

He shared how his mom treated him when he was young.

A little background: My parents divorced when I was 8, and my mom (let’s call her Layla) remarried pretty quickly after that.

She married this guy, Dave, who had two kids of his own.

Ever since, it’s like I was no longer a priority in her life. She focused all her attention on Dave and his kids.

Like, I’m not exaggerating when I say she treated them way better than me.

They’d go on trips, she’d go to all their sport events, and they’d get everything they wanted.

He felt like he was invisible.

Meanwhile, I felt like I was invisible.

She didn’t ask about my school, didn’t care about my friends, or even my mental health.

I started to feel like I wasn’t even her kid anymore

When I turned 18, I moved out.

I thought maybe she’d care and try to stay in touch, but nope—she didn’t.

He stopped reaching out to her.

I’d text her once in a while just to check in, and she’d either not respond or say she was busy with Dave and his kids.

I figured if she didn’t care, why should I?

So, I just stopped trying to reach out.

His mom texted him, wanting to be part of his wedding.

Fast forward to now. I’m planning my wedding, and out of nowhere, my mom starts texting me like we’re super close.

She wants to know all the details, saying how excited she is, and even saying things like, “I can’t wait to see you start this new chapter.”

Like… seriously?

I haven’t heard from her in years, and now she expects to be front and center for my wedding?

He said no, and she started crying.

I told her straight up that I didn’t want her there. I said I’m not comfortable with her coming after everything that’s happened and that if she really wants to have a relationship, we can talk about it after the wedding, but not before.

She started crying and saying I’m holding a grudge and that “I’m her son” and “she deserves to be there.”

But I don’t know how I’m supposed to just forget the fact that she ignored me my whole childhood in favor of Dave’s kids.

Now, he’s wondering if he should let his mom attend his wedding.

Now, my family is split.

Some of them think I’m right, and that I shouldn’t just let her show up when she never showed up for me.

Others think I should just let it go, and “it’s just one day,” and that I should let her come to the wedding to keep the peace.

So, AITA for not letting my mom come to my wedding after everything that happened?

That’s a tough situation, but it seems like it should be his decision since it’s his wedding.

Let’s check out how others on Reddit react to this story.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

People are calling out his mom for suddenly showing up.

This person shares a similar experience.

Finally, here’s one insightful comment from this user.

It’s his wedding. He gets to decide who he invites.

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