Being part of a wedding is an honor, but not when it means standing beside the person who broke your heart.

So, what would you do if a close family member asked you to set aside deep personal wounds for the sake of their big day? Would you go along with it for their sake? Or would you stand your ground and refuse to be part of it?

In the following story, one uncle finds himself in this very situation, and now he wonders if he’s wrong for refusing to take part. Here’s what’s going on.

AITA, Am I an idiot for not accept to be best man at my niece’s wedding because she wants me to enter with my ex wife?

Me (36) and my ex-wife (34) were married for ten years and have been separated (Divorced ) for 4 years because she cheated on me with one of the interns.

This betrayal was a blow to me because we had built a whole future together, even without children, something that, because I was sterile, I could never provide for her.

This had never been a problem for us until she made a point of throwing it in my face when I caught them in the act to justify herself.

Most of his family members supported him.

My whole family knew about it and stood by me during the separation, except my niece, who was always very attached to both of us and especially to her.

She said that I should forgive her, and although it hurt me to divorce, I couldn’t go on with the marriage.

After the separation, I was able to gradually rebuild my life and even found a new girlfriend who I will call Jane (32). She has two adorable children, John (14) and Anne (6), and I love them as if they were mine.

His niece wanted both of them to play a role in her wedding.

Four months ago, I received the invitation to my niece’s wedding and promptly accepted.

That is until she told me she hoped my ex-wife and I would be part of her wedding.

I was shocked, and I made a point of firmly saying that I could not accept the invitation and that if she were a bridesmaid, I would not go to the wedding, much less be a best man and enter together.

Even his girlfriend turned against him.

She got upset and broke down crying.

Now, my family is telling me that I’m being too hard and that I should do this for the sake of my niece.

My girlfriend also said I was guilty and that it would be okay for a day, but I don’t think it’s fair.

AITA?

Eek! It’s easy to see both sides of this, but it is only for one day.

Let’s see what advice the readers over at Reddit have to offer him.

These are some excellent thoughts.

As this comment points out, it’s time to sit down with his niece and talk this out.

Yes, she does need to accept it.

This does seem like what she’s trying to do.

He’s not wrong for refusing.

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