One of the hardest situations a person can find themselves in is taking on the mantle of parent to the children of a lost loved one.

These situations are all the harder when complications arise, like in this story.

At what point should you stop helping a widow and her child?

That’s the question this person is pondering. Let’s see what’s going on.

AITA – Am I in the wrong here?

Since my brother died of tragic accident, I brought his wife & 4 year old kid to come to Canada and since arriving we have been providing for all their needs (food, child care, housing, phone bill).

It’s been 5 years and now.

But someone really isn’t stepping up.

I found out that my sister-in-law has been in a relationship for almost two years and has not been upfront about it.

I found out that she had been lying.

She had the relationship while me and my family were looking and providing for her child.

She’s now working and is living like she doesn’t have any responsibility. The kid is no longer the priority.

And then, there’s the ultimatum:

I confronted her and told her that she need to move out and she can be on her own since she’s already moved on.

She is not ready to provide for the child so I said she can leave the kid with us until when she is ready to provide.

Am I a jerk for asking her to move out? What should I do?

It’s sad that it doesn’t sound like the mother prioritizes taking care of her child.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

People from a variety of backgrounds gave their input:

Many people see a lot of nuance in the situation:

Others thought he sounded pretty reasonable:

But more info is needed…

In any case, we all hope the kid is ok.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.