Being a good parent often means showing up when your kids need you.

But apparently, this dad didn’t get the memo.

When one sleepy father couldn’t be bothered to stay until the final bow of his daughter’s musical, his wife couldn’t help but wonder how his priorities got so far off script.

You’ll want to read on for this one.

AITA for refusing to go see my husband’s school musical?

I (40s/F) and my husband (40s/M) are in an argument regarding an incident that happened with my daughter’s musical the previous weekend.

She sets the scene.

My daughter (15/F) was in a musical at her high school and had been practicing for months leading up to her performance.

She performed a total of four times — once for parent night and three different showings over the weekend.

She didn’t miss even a single rehearsal.

I attended all of the rehearsals, picked her up from practices, and volunteered to work during the intermission shifts and pre-shows for the musical boosters group.

I only asked that her father and two brothers attend one show.

But it soon became clear that even this was too much to ask.

They came to the afternoon showing, and at intermission, my husband mentioned that he wanted to head home because he had not been feeling well.

Plus, he was feeling a little hungry and tired.

She tries to cajole him, but it doesn’t work.

I told him that the second act was only about 35 minutes and would be short, and I thought it would be nice for everyone to stay to show support for our daughter.

He decided to leave anyway and took our sons with him.

She couldn’t believe he could be so selfish.

I was beyond upset, and we had an argument about it.

I said that it was very selfish to leave and not be there for our daughter when she walked out.

Everyone else’s family stayed, giving hugs and flowers, and when she came out, it would only be me again.

So when her husband has the nerve to ask her for a favor, she has a swift response.

Fast forward to this weekend, and my husband asked if we all wanted to go see the musical at the school where he teaches.

I said I didn’t want to sit through someone else’s musical when he hadn’t even bothered to sit through his own daughter’s.

Now he’s putting all the blame on her.

He told me that I was wrong for my opinion and that I was being hateful.

He then asked my daughter if she wanted to go with him, but it had to be the matinee on Sunday because he didn’t want to drive at night.

But her daughter is busy that night.

She has voice lessons on Sunday, so she doesn’t want to miss them.

Instead, he said if she doesn’t want to go, he’ll take his mother with him instead.

Now the two find themselves at a standstill.

He says that I am being unreasonable, and I said that he is not being a supportive father.

AITA?

Would it really have hurt this dad to stay until curtain call?

What did Reddit have to say?

This Redditor doesn’t think her husband’s reasoning makes one lick of sense.

As someone who’s also been up on stage, this user affirms that showing up makes a world of difference.

This commenter really didn’t pull any punches on this indictment of her husband’s parenting.

This dad sure isn’t winning any sympathy from this comment section.

Your true character shows when you show up for those around you, even if you’d rather be doing something else.

Witnessing your child’s passion should make you want to give a standing ovation, not make a beeline toward the nearest exit.

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