Having a unique family mix can mean a lot of butting of heads.

Imagine being divorced with kids and one of your kids starts speaking the native language of her stepdad. Would you have a problem with this, or would you think that it’s great if she becomes bilingual?

The mom and stepdad in this story do not agree.

Let’s find out why.

AITA for refusing to stop speaking Hindi in my own home after my husband’s ex-wife asked me to?

So I (32,M) living in London and currently married to my husband (33,M) for 5 years now.

He had been married to a woman Erica before me and they have a daughter together, Sophie (8 f).

Sophie lives with us because of the custody arrangement.

Some pretty vital background to keep in mind:

Something of importance here is that I am of indian descent, And in 2022 my husband and I, we welcomed twin boys through IVF, so I teach my children Hindi and talk to them in Hindi, because it’s important to me.

I am raising them to be bilingual.

But since Sophie lives with us, she also picked up on my Hindi words.

But here’s where things get hairy:

Last week Erica had come for dinner during which Sophie said some random words in Hindi.

I didn’t even know she had picked up on it.

Anyway, after we put the kids to bed, Erica said to me, “I would appreciate it if you don’t teach the kids that language Sophie was speaking at dinner.”

That’s not what he was doing.

So I said, “I am not teaching Sophie anything, I talk to my kids in Hindi because I want to raise them to be Bilingual and it was important to me.”

Then Erica said, “But Sophie is there too, so maybe limit it or talk to the boys in Hindi when she is not around.”

I said, “I don’t want to be treated like a prisoner in my own house and I am not doing anything wrong. It’s my culture and I want to pass it down. And if you have a problem, then you should take full custody of Sophie.”

Then Erica started crying and left.

And there’s aftermath:

Now my husband is mad at me because he thinks that Erica will take Sophie away from him.

He wants me to apologise, but I don’t think I am wrong.

So, AITA?

He shouldn’t have suggested she take full custody, but he’s not wrong for teaching his kids his native language.

Let’s go to the comments on Reddit:

There’s nothing wrong with being bilingual.

Seriously, the priorities are all kinds of messed up here.

This seems pretty hateful overall.

This seems pretty obvious.

Don’t take things away from your children just to make yourself feel more secure.

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