How far would you be willing to go if a family member lost their home and needed a place to stay for a while?

Well, everyone’s different…and this guy is in the middle of a situation that can only be described as TOUGH.

He’s not interested in letting his brother and his family stay at his place because he’s worried about his own comfort.

Is he acting like a jerk?

Read on to get all the details below.

AITA for refusing to let my brother’s family stay with me after they lost their home?

“I (34M) own a modest 3-bedroom house that I bought five years ago.

I live alone and use one bedroom as my home office (I work from home full-time) and the other as a guest room/hobby space where I keep my music equipment and gaming setup.

My brother (38M) and his wife (36F) recently lost their home due to financial issues. They have three kids (12F, 10M, 7F).

This doesn’t sound good…

Their financial problems stem from a series of poor decisions – my brother lost his good-paying job two years ago after repeatedly showing up late, then bounced between jobs while his wife worked part-time.

They kept their kids in expensive private schools and activities they couldn’t afford, refused to downsize from their large house, and ignored my parents’ and my advice about budgeting.

Eventually, they couldn’t keep up with mortgage payments and were foreclosed on.

When they lost their home, they asked if they could stay with me “just for a few months” until they get back on their feet.

Uh oh…

Here’s where I might be the jerk: I said no.

My reasons:

My house is simply too small for 6 people. They’d need to take over my entire living space.

I need my home office to work, and I can’t work effectively with three kids running around.

I value my peace and quiet, and frankly, I don’t want my life turned upside down.

Their “few months” could easily turn into a year or more based on their financial history.

They have other options…

My parents offered to let them stay in their larger home, but they refused because they “don’t want to live by my parents’ rules.”

Instead of letting them stay, I offered to pay for a hotel for two weeks and help them find an affordable apartment. I also offered to cover their security deposit.

My brother exploded, calling me selfish and saying I have plenty of space and am “choosing things over family.”

My parents are torn – they understand my position but think I could “make it work temporarily.”

His brother’s family had to find another place to live.

Since then, my brother’s family moved in with my parents (despite not wanting to earlier), and I’m getting constant texts from extended family about how I abandoned my brother in his time of need.

My brother’s wife is posting passive-aggressive things on social media about “finding out who your real family is during hard times.”

So AITA for not letting them stay with me?”

He is under no obligation to let them stay with him.

Check out how folks reacted on Reddit.

This person had a lot to say.

Another individual said he’s NTA.

This person agreed.

Another reader chimed in.

And this person spoke up.

It doesn’t look like these two brothers are gonna be friends very much longer.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.