Sometimes making smart financial decisions can go a long way, but what if your partner doesn’t want to do that?

What would you do if your partner wanted you to help them pay for something really expensive? Would you help them, or would you argue that it’s better to save the money for the future?

This lady’s husband asked her to buy him an expensive truck. Let’s see how that works out.

AITA If I (29F) Tell My Husband (31M) I’m not Willing to Spend $10k on a Down Payment for a New Truck Because Driving My Car Makes Him Feel ‘Less of a Man’?

Long story short, his car has a lot of problems and he’s been wanting a truck for a while.

Logically, we really do need a truck to allow us to do more home renovations and be less reliant on family, but I’m not sure now is the right time.

This is where it gets tricky…

I’ve asked him if we can set a goal to purchase a truck this summer so we can focus on saving up for a good down payment to lower our monthly payments and so we can remain secure with a “nest egg” in our bank account.

I currently have $13k in my account – this includes both my savings and my checking account. He has anywhere from $5k-7k in his account typically.

He’s been paying most of the bills.

While I’ve kept my spending more frugal, he has, to be fair, spent more money on our home and daily needs as I work remote whereas he works in person so it’s easier for him to grab last minute items throughout the week.

I want to make sure I am not making him look like he’s being selfish, that’s not the case, but I do think he is being immature.

He asked me if we can go look at a $39k truck this weekend and is asking me to put $10k down.

She has a strong point…

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not hoarding my money from him, but I grew up homeless, without basic needs, and I do not ever want to put myself into a position where I am struggling again.

We are 100% not poor but I would feel very insecure dropping my account down by that much when I’ve been saving this money for YEARS.

To add to the conflict, when I remind him we don’t need the truck this minute and that we can use my car until say August/September, he says driving my car makes him feel like he’s not a man.

She defending her decision, but he’s still upset.

I tried to tell him that there’s nothing manlier than a man who puts his families financial interests before his wants, but he just clams up.

He essentially told me that I obviously don’t think of my bank account as ours and what I say is apparently the final say.

I’ve tried to have a mature conversation to weigh the pros and cons but he is legitimately pouting. I’m talking no eye contact, mono-syllable responses, and not engaging in the discussion.

She feels conflicted…

I don’t want to have him feeling like his wants aren’t valid, but how do I get him to see from my perspective?

Or if necessary, how do I see from his when he won’t give me anything more than “It’s the only truck that meets our requirements within 500 sq miles, you have more money than I do, and your car is a chicks car”?

GEEZ! That’s a tough one!

Why can’t the husband see the financial crunch that this purchase would bring?

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.

This user thinks this lady is being very smart with her finances!

That’s right! This user knows the amount that needs to be paid for the truck is way too much!

Exactly! This user comments on the masculinity of the husband!

True! This user knows the husband isn’t being the man of the house with such decisions…

Exactly! This user suggests not merging their finances.

Someone’s being irresponsible!

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