Nothing ruins a relationship quite like money.

And the ways in which that can happen are endless…

If you got a promotion, would you treat yourself to something you needed, or would you consult your partner first to see what they thought you should do with your money?

This couple is not on the same page, and it’s raising some red flags.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITAH for putting my raise towards a car instead?

Okay so my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year (24M and 23F) I’ll call her Mia.

A few months ago I offered her to stay with me in my apartment that I’ve been renting for a few years since her lease was up and she was having a hard time with rent on top of student loans.

I pay for the rent all my own so she can focus on getting some money together for her loans and all that but she does contribute a bit to things like groceries etc and things have been good.

He got some good news!

I got a promotion a couple weeks ago and decided to get a new car.

I’ve had mine since I was 16 and it was on its last legs so I went out yesterday and got a new used car (nicer than the one I had).

Mia wasn’t too happy about this.

The problem is when Mia found out she got upset and said she thought we were going to use the extra money to upgrade to a nicer apartment since my lease was up soon.

I told her that we never agreed that I wasn’t going to renew and that I need a reliable car for my job.

She said that it’s not fair that I didn’t include her in this decision.

And I said I didn’t realize I had to since nothings wrong with the apartment we have and I’m paying the rent for us anyways.

Who was in the wrong?

I went to stay in the spare room for the night.

I feel like I might be ta because I feel like it came off as me throwing it in her face and because I don’t know if we’re at the stage where things like that need to be ran by each other beforehand.

Did I mess up here?

Clearly, they have different expectations and goals.

Let’s see what the comments on Reddit make of this:

This is moving things pretty fast, wouldn’t you say?

Take a close look at that flag.

One commenter was extremely blunt:

Just yikes. Yikes all around.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.