This is a weird one, folks!

You’d think that it would probably be a good idea to fill in your significant other about what to expect when it comes to your family traditions, but that didn’t happen in this situation.

The guy who wrote the following story on Reddit tried his best, but the whole thing blew up in his face.

Did he do anything wrong?

Read his story and see what you think.

AITA for disrespecting my partner’s cultural traditions?

“I’m a 30M dating a wonderful woman, Mei (33F), who comes from a different cultural background. We’ve been together for about a year, and things have been going great.

Mei’s family celebrates a traditional holiday that I wasn’t familiar with. I was genuinely interested in learning about it and wanted to participate fully.

I asked Mei if she could teach me about the customs and what was expected.

She seemed a bit dismissive, saying it wasn’t a big deal and that I’ d pick it up as we went along.

I didn’t want to press her, so I decided to do some research on my own.

Oops!

The day of the celebration arrived, and I was excited but also a bit nervous. I tried to follow along with what everyone was doing, but at one point, I made a mistake.

I accidentally used the wrong hand to pass a ceremonial item, which apparently is a significant faux pas.

Mei’s family was polite about it, but I could tell they were taken aback.

Mei pulled me aside and told me I should have known better.

I felt embarrassed and apologized profusely, explaining that I had tried to learn but didn’t have all the details.

Well, he tried…

Mei was upset and said I should have asked more questions.

I reminded her that I had tried to ask, but she hadn’t seemed interested in explaining.

She said I should have insisted or found other ways to learn.

Now, I’m left feeling like I failed to respect her culture, even though I genuinely tried. I wanted to be respectful and involved, but it seems like I missed the mark.

Mei has been quite cold since the incident, and I worry that I’ve damaged my relationship with her family.

He can’t stop thinking about what happened.

I keep replaying the situation in my head, wondering if I should have done more.

Maybe I should have insisted on a more in-depth conversation with Mei or reached out to someone else for guidance. But at the same time, I feel like I did my best with the information I had.

Am I at fault for not knowing enough, or was it reasonable to expect a bit more guidance from Mei?

AITA?”

She knew he didn’t have any experience with this cultural celebration, so she should’ve made sure he knew enough about it that he didn’t accidentally do anything disrespectful.

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

This person weighed in.

Another reader said he’s NTA.

This Reddit user agreed.

Another person spoke up.

And this individual didn’t hold back.

Well, he did give it his best shot…

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