Feeling left out and taken for granted is the worst.

How would you feel if your best friend made new friends and started ignoring you except when her new friends were busy? Would you still hang onto the friendship, or would you let this friend slip away?

The woman telling today’s story stood up to her so-called best friend after being treated like a “backup friend.”

She’s not sure if she made the right decision.

Let’s analyze the situation.

AITA for telling my best friend I don’t want to be her “backup” friend anymore?

I (F, 19) have been best friends with “Sarah” (F, 19) since middle school.

We used to be super close — FaceTime every night, hang out every weekend, talk about everything.

They’re drifting apart.

But ever since we started college (we’re at different schools), things have changed.

She’s made a new friend group, and honestly, I’m happy for her.

But it’s like she only texts me when they’re busy or she’s having drama with them.

She is taking her for granted.

I’ll try to make plans and get left on read, but suddenly when her new friends are “toxic” or she’s bored, she remembers I exist.

Last weekend, she called crying about one of them ditching her.

I comforted her like always, but then she said, “I’m so glad I still have you, my backup bestie.”

Ouch. Now it was very clear how she saw her.

I froze.

I don’t think she meant it in a mean way, but it stung.

The next day, I texted her and said that I felt like I was just a second choice to her now, and I didn’t want to keep being a “backup” friend.

She kept being toxic as a way to deflect.

She got super defensive, said I was being dramatic and selfish, and now she’s ghosting me completely.

My mom says I should’ve just ignored the comment and been there for her, but I feel like I finally stood up for myself.

AITA?

Her friend doesn’t care about her feelings at all. She is just a “backup” to her, and she even said so out loud.

Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this situation.

A reader shares their thoughts.

Exactly.

This person has an interesting take.

Yup.

Very simple.

Another reader chimes in.

She deserves friends who will prioritize and respect her.

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