When dating someone, you need to be able to trust them or the relationship will never succeed.

What would you do if your boyfriend had a female best friend who he was constantly talking to, and you even found out that he would spend one weekend a year with her without telling you?

That is what happened to the woman in this story, so he is giving him an ultimatum forcing him to choose between her and the ‘best friend,’ which is making him upset.

Check it out.

AITA for giving my boyfriend an ultimatum about his suspiciously close female “best friend”?

I (24F) have been with my bf (26M) for 3 years and recently moved in together.

Ever since then, I’ve noticed he has this super weird friendship with his “childhood bestie” (25F).

They text constantly, share inside jokes, and he drops everything when she calls.

He clearly puts her first.

Last week was our anniversary and I’d planned a special dinner.

He literally canceled on me last minute because this girl had a “crisis” (her cat scratched her new couch, I kid you not).

After that, I kind of lost it and decided to do some digging.

While he was in the shower, I checked his phone (I know, I know) and found YEARS of texts between them.

Nothing explicitly romantic, but super intimate emotional stuff.

Things he never shares with me.

So at a minimum, he is engaged in lies by omission.

What pushed me over the edge was finding out they have this tradition where they spend a weekend together ALONE at her family’s cabin every year “to reconnect.”

He never mentioned this.

So, when he got out of the shower, I confronted him.

He got defensive saying I violated his privacy and that they’re “just friends” and I need to “stop being insecure.”

I told him it’s either her or me.

He refused to choose, saying I was being controlling.

I packed a bag and went to my sister’s place.

Now his friends are blowing up my phone saying I’m a toxic gf for giving ultimatums and “not respecting male-female friendships.”

She is not crazy at all.

But like, am I crazy?

This goes beyond normal friendship.

My sister thinks I dodged a bullet but his sister (who I was close with) says I ruined a perfectly good relationship over my insecurities.

Am I wrong for making my bf choose between me and his female best friend?

AITA?

She really dodged a bullet.

At the very least he was spending a weekend with this girl without telling his girlfriend, which is deceptive even if he isn’t doing anything inappropriate with her.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

This relationship is doomed.

Set boundaries and enforce them.

Exactly, there is no way he would put up with that.

Sadly, she is just a placeholder.

He isn’t telling her things she has the right to know. Dump him.

Lies of omission are lies none the less.

End this relationship and never look back.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.