Sometimes parents need to admit their bad parenting and make sure their kid’s behavior does not effect others around them.

Would you let a family member stay with you even if their child screamed all night and made it impossible for anyone in the family to get a good night sleep?

This woman shares how her sister-in-law’s daughter made things very difficult when they stayed at her house. She doesn’t want to let the sister-in-law and daughter stay with them again.

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AITA for saying no to hosting my SIL and her additional needs kid overnight again?

A few months ago my sister and law and her daughter who is 3 came to stay with us for nearly a week because she is getting assessed for autism in our state.

I had suggested to my partner that they stay in a hotel, even offered that we cover the costs because my SIL is what I could only call a free range mom.

She is struggling and is likely trying to do whatever will make the day go by.

Anyway they visited and we have a 4 year old son. He has his routines, we have our rules at home, aside from our weekly movie night he doesn’t access any other screen time and doesn’t have a personal device.

This is where it gets worse!

My SIL’s kid was glued to her iPad the entire time, volume on loud and if my SIL tried lowering the volume the kid would start screaming, it seems that the SIL never actually carried through with it.

We tried to be accommodating, she sat at the dinner table with us for dinner on her iPad.

Our son was very curious and at first. We were like this is a good opportunity for him to understand some people do things differently for whatever reason.

She had not expected that!

But by day three, it was clear that this wasn’t just about the kid getting used to a different environment, it was full-blown chaos.

Constant screaming and banging well into the night, the iPad on loud until nighttime too. It kept everyone up.

We have a large 5 bedroom home and we all stayed up because of it including our son who could not sleep until he asked to stay in our room.

I occasionally WFH but just couldn’t and had to leave.

That’s INSANE!

The lack of boundaries extended to other areas too.

My SIL would say she was stepping out for a walk and be gone for hours, leaving her daughter with us with no heads up or prep.

And I want to be clear, I have so much empathy.

I know parenting a child with additional needs is exhausting. I know she likely never gets a break.

UH OH…

But I didn’t sign up to be free childcare, especially when we were already hosting them, driving them around, buying a lot of additional frozen food and snacks that we never keep at home so that the daughter could eat.

All while trying to maintain some structure for our own kid.

My partner and I argued about it afterward.

She didn’t want them to come back!

He felt I was being too harsh.

I said, if they need to come again for another assessment, we either book and pay for a hotel if they really can’t afford it or set very clear boundaries about what kind of help we’re able to offer, and stick to them.

Now my SIL needs to come to our state again and has asked to stay for the few days she is here.

Now she’s questioning her choice…

My partner thinks I’m being unkind and unsupportive, but I honestly think we did everything we could last time and hosting again is just too stressful.

So I said no.

AITA for saying no to hosting them overnight again?

GEEZ! That sounds exhausting!

She clearly didn’t expect it to be that difficult having them stay with her.

Let’s find out what the Reddit community thinks about this one.

This user has a great idea!

This user suggests moving out for a bit so the husband has to deal with everything at home.

This user also suggests staying peacefully at the hotel.

This user also suggests leaving the house to the husband so he knows the chaos.

Exactly! This user knows there has to be a way around this behavior.

Someone’s being a little entitled here!

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.