Cheating is always a serious matter, and it can be hard to forgive someone who cheats on you.

This man once told his then-girlfriend he could forgive her if she ever cheated as long as she only did it once, and she confessed.

Years later, he told her that was a lie.

Read the story below for all the details.

AITAH for lying to my wife that I’d forgive her cheating?

When my wife and I first started dating, we had a talk about cheating.

I straight up lied, and said:

“If this ever happens, I need to know straight away. If you tell me, and it only happens once, I think I could forgive you.”

His wife asked him if he remembered the talk they had.

Fast forward to 5 years later, we are married.

A couple of nights ago, she came up to me.

She asked if I remember our talk.

I said which one (we had a lot of talks like that).

This man was mortified when he heard his wife’s confession.

She then reminded me of the cheating talk and confessed she slept with a co-worker at a recent company party.

I was mortified. I packed my stuff and left.

She begged me to stay.

I couldn’t, I needed to cool down.

He told her he has no intention of forgiving her.

We talked yesterday, and she again reminded of our talk early on.

I laughed, and said that I never intended to forgive her, and I only said that at the time to make sure she confessed if it ever happened.

His wife said he manipulated her.

I’m still planning on divorcing her.

Nothing can change my mind about that.

But my wife said what I did was manipulation.

Was I the jerk for lying about forgiving her?

Yes, he was wrong to lie to her. She was also wrong for cheating on him.

Let’s check out the comments of other people on Reddit to this story.

This person shares their honest opinion.

She’s delusional, says this person.

People are siding with the husband, not the cheater.

Sorry, not gonna work!

Finally, this user thinks it’s not an excuse to cheat.

A promise can change when the real thing happens.

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