Usually the bride decides what the bridesmaid dresses will look like. What would you do if you didn’t like the bridesmaid dresses your friend picked out for her wedding? Would you wear it anyway or refuse to be a bridesmaid?

In today’s story, one woman is thinking about not being in her friend’s wedding after all.

Let’s see if she’s overreacting or not.

AITA for saying I don’t want to be my friend’s “fat bridesmaid aesthetic”?

I (29F) have a friend, (30F), who’s getting married in October.

We’ve been close since college but lately it feels like I’m just… aesthetic filler to her.

She picked her bridal party dresses without asking for input and they’re tight. Like SKIMS-meets-sausage-casing tight.

She’s the biggest bridesmaid.

I’m a size 16.

The other girls are size 2–6.

I asked if there were other options and she laughed and said, “Nooo I love how it looks with all different body types, like it’s giving real women.”

Excuse me?

She was honest with her friend.

I asked her straight up if she just wanted me there as some token diversity of size and she got quiet, then hit me with the “You’re so confident, though! That’s why I wanted you in it!”

Which is honestly code for “you make me look better.”

I told her I’m not comfortable being someone’s walking body positivity prop, and maybe she should get one of her influencer friends instead.

Her friend didn’t take that well.

She cried, told me I was ruining her vision, and now the group chat is weirdly quiet.

My boyfriend thinks I should just suck it up for the day, but I’m so tired of pretending stuff doesn’t bother me when it clearly does.

AITA for saying I don’t want to be part of her Pinterest fantasy?

If she’s uncomfortable in the dress, she has every right to decide not to be a bridesmaid.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

The friend’s response is telling.

This person shares their honest feelings.

She might be reading too much into the dress.

Here’s why the group chat is quiet.

It could go either way who is right and who is wrong.

She may be overthinking this.

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