No matter how much you give, it’s easy to feel invisible when others don’t reciprocate.

After being left out of multiple family events, she began questioning how much more she was willing to tolerate of her in-laws’ selfishness.

Read on for the full story.

AITA if I stop planning holidays with my husband’s family?

This past weekend for Father’s Day, my husband was unavailable in the afternoon, and so I reached out to my BIL, SIL, FIL, and MIL and let them know that we would be able to do something at night or in the morning before or after my husband’s appointment.

They all said to just let them know.

I was busy that week and told my husband it was his responsibility to figure out what we were doing for Father’s Day with his family.

But when the day arrived, nothing went as planned.

Sunday came along, and my husband called his dad in the morning and asked what he was up to, and he said that my BIL and SIL were at the house having breakfast with him.

They had not reached out to my husband and me—not even a text to invite us as well.

To her, this is part of a troubling pattern.

And this isn’t the first time.

In November, for my FIL’s birthday, my MIL reached out the day before and mentioned that they had had plans for weeks to go to lunch with my BIL and SIL, and since we asked about their plans, we could just come with them.

She’s finally getting to a breaking point.

At this point, I am feeling petty and told my husband that I’m no longer planning ANY events for his family. If they are going to do stuff and not invite us, then I’m not going to stretch myself thin to put in effort for these people.

Especially when my SIL gets a gushing Facebook post every year for her birthday, and I don’t even get a text for mine.

My brother told me he agrees with me, but that it is kind of an AH move.

So AITA?

Everyone’s patience has its limits.

What did Reddit make of all this?

The in-law relationship isn’t the only relationship that could use a bit more balance.

State your case, husband.

Life’s too short to have to deal with this kind of disrespect.

It’s time her in-laws start doing their fair share.

After being left out so many times, she finally realized her energy was better spent elsewhere.

It’s better to prioritize people who prioritize you back.

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