Man, you gotta feel sorry for this teenager…

She’s only 17-years-old and she’s been put in a tough situation that is really unnecessary!

And now she wants to know if she’s done anything wrong.

It involves child custody, a father who shows up, and a stepdad who seems super jealous.

Read her story below, and see what you think.

AITA for never asking my dad to sit something out so my stepdad will come?

“My parents were never officially together. It was just a fling between them and I’m (17f) the result of that fling.

So I always had two separate homes.

I have a brother at my dad’s house who’s my biological cousin but dad’s raised him as his own and we see each other as brother and sister.

At my mom’s house it’s her and my stepdad, who married mom when I was 7.

There’s some tension.

My stepdad doesn’t like my dad. He was always jealous of my close relationship with dad but I think he resents that dad has two kids and he’s sterile. He always tried to turn me into the daughter he would never otherwise have but he wanted that at the expense of my dad.

Because my stepdad doesn’t like my dad he refuses to show up where dad will be. So when I was in dance and I had anything dance related happening he wouldn’t show. If I had a school play and dad was going, he wouldn’t show.

This never really ended and I always asked dad to be there so my stepdad never was.

I was 14 when my mom and stepdad first asked me if I’d ask dad to sit out a basketball game I was in so my stepdad could be there.

I didn’t even want to be in basketball. That was forced by my mom and stepdad. But I was like if I have to do it, I want dad to watch me.

Not gonna happen…

When they suggested I ask dad to sit it out I said no. I told them I loved having him at everything.

My mom said basketball was mine and my stepdad’s thing.

And I said it was his thing, not mine.

They stopped making me play after that.

They’ve asked a few more times since. Both for school and extra curricular stuff.

She doesn’t feel like this is her problem.

The last time they asked was three weeks ago. I got an award on the last day of school (not graduation).

My stepdad wanted to come and see me get the award and they wanted to be able to take photos with me at school. So they suggested I ask dad to sit it out since he was at other ceremonies when I was given awards.

I told them I wasn’t going to do it and it was up to them to deal with their issues with dad being there.

My last day of school was last week and my stepdad didn’t come and neither did mom.

I expected it. She called me a couple of days ago wanting to know why I wasn’t more upset about them not being there.

She already knows all about this…

I told her I expected it because I knew she was mad I refused to make dad sit out.

She told me I didn’t always need to put my stepdad last.

And I told her if the only way he can feel welcome is if dad isn’t there then he’ll never come to anything because I will always want my dad.

Mom told me that was such a bad attitude when my stepdad has been good to me since we met and has tried so hard to be a good dad.

But she already has a dad.

I told her that’s one of the problems, he’s not my dad.

My dad is the guy who raised me since day one and who never asked me to choose like my stepdad did.

Mom said I was being unfair.

And I told her she can throw me away if she wants, since I won’t coddle her husband, but I’m not going to ever exclude my dad so her husband can be there.

She clarifies the custody situation.

For those who’ll wonder at custody to make a decision on this. My parents had 50-50 custody of me for most of my life. As in a week with mom and a week with dad and switching back and forth.

I wanted to move in with dad full time after the pressure started to exclude him. We went to court and a judge let me reduce my time at mom’s but would not let me choose where to live.

So I do two weekends and a few extra days at mom’s every month to make up the time I have to spend with her. But my stepdad was not more present and my dad was not some deadbeat.

AITA?”

Is she wrong for wanting her dad to be there for her, or is her stepdad asking too much?

Check out what readers had to say about this on Reddit.

This person said she’s NTA.

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Another reader spoke up.

And this Reddit user had a lot to say.

Jeez, talk about putting a kid in the middle…

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