Imagine planning a trip with friends, and then your daughter suddenly tells you that she’s getting married at the same time as the trip you’ve already planned and paid for.

Would you cancel the trip or tell your daughter you can’t make it that day?

The dad in this story is in this exact situation, and he’s not planning on canceling his trip.

This situation is a lot more complicated because he feels like he already attended his daughter’s wedding.

Let’s find out what happened.

AITA For going on a motorcycle trip with my friends instead of my daughters wedding?

Some quick context. Last year I was told my daughter was getting married in 2025.

I immediately supported this decision and was there every step of the way.

Following tradition I gave her 4500 for help with venue payment.

The wedding got more expensive.

During the planning process they changed from a local wedding to a destination wedding in puerto rico and forwarded the timeline a year to last fall giving me a year less to pay for the wedding.

Now I had to pay for flights and accommodations for people.

Reservations for air Bnb were made and purchased and tickets were bought.

The wedding didn’t happen.

Then they broke up over some pretty immature reasons.

I was stuck with the bill.

I tried for refunds but was told the trip was going ahead for “revenge” photos to make him feel bad.

So that and because my wife and step kids are puerto Rican I said fine.

In total that trip cost me 22500.00

He decided to do something for himself.

Shortly after that trip I was invited to ride through glacier national park with some buddies.

I figured we’ll ive paid for multiple trips to Disney as well as multiple trips for people to go to puerto rico so sure I think I earned it.

My buddies and I planned for this September.

It seems that his daughter and her ex have reconciled.

My daughter left about 4 months ago to go back to her man and didn’t say a word to me.

We haven’t talked once since she left. Zero explanation or call.

The other day she showed up at the house and told me matter of factly that the wedding is back on and I needed to be there. It was going to be on Thursday 9/11.

This is a problem.

I told her I can’t make it i had prepaid plans already.

She said your really going to miss my wedding.

I told her I was there for the first one.

She said there wasn’t one.

I said not according to my bank account.

She walked off and now I apparently am a jerk.

If his daughter wants him to be there for her wedding, she can plan the wedding for a date that he’s going to be home.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

His daughter should’ve talked to him before picking a date.

This doesn’t seem like a lucky day to get married.

This person doesn’t think it’s wrong to go on the bike trip.

This is a good point. His daughter would probably never forgive him if he’s not there.

He probably won’t be the only one who can’t make it on short notice.

It’s possible this wedding won’t happen either.

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