Weddings are supposed to be about what the bride and groom want, but it’s usually not that simple.

See the obstacles this woman is facing in having what she wants.

AITA for turning down a free wedding?

I met my fiancé while traveling and we have been together for 4 years and engaged for 6 months.

I’ve always been ambivalent towards marriage (but open to it); however I knew from a very young age I didn’t want a wedding.

But people in her family are pressuring her.

It’s just not something I’m drawn to at all.

I hate the idea of wearing a wedding dress, being the center of attention, participating in wedding traditions, etc.

My fiancé knows this, and my family and friends have also always known this about me.

We planned to elope and travel for several months on an extended honeymoon, but his mom and step-dad wanted us to have a small wedding in the UK. They offered to pay for everything.

So she’s uncomfortable turning them down.

I explained that it’s not about the cost for me at all; I just don’t want to have a wedding, even a small one.

I think they are well-intentioned and believed paying for a small wedding with just close family and friends was a good compromise, but I didn’t want to do something I’ve never wanted to do.

Even if it was free.

Since my fiancé supports this, we turned them down, but now it has caused some tension with his family.

AITA for turning down their offer to pay for a wedding?

Here is what people are saying.

It can even be a barbecue!

It may put them at odds, but she doesn’t owe them anything.

That’s all that matters!

Good point. It’s manipulative.

I’m sad that was their relationship, but I get it.

Weddings are intense. I don’t blame her.

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