Even small acts of support in a relationship can quickly spiral into arguments when expectations clash.

She sent a professional email on her husband’s behalf, hoping to help him finalize a new job offer,

Instead, her husband saw her word choices as overcomplicating and embarrassing.

Keep reading to find out how it all played out.

AITA for using professional language on an email I sent on behalf of my husband?

My (30F) husband (43M) accepted a new job, and as part of that job, he needed to sign a consent form to send to his new employer so they could complete some type of background check or related thing.

He tried to send this email a few times, but it would not go through.

So she tried to help him out and wrote what she thought was an acceptable response.

He asked me if I would send it, and I said I would.

So I drafted the following pasted email:

“Attached hereto, please find the executed Consent Form for (my husband). Thank you, (My name).”

I CC’d my husband on the email because he asked me to.

But it turns out, her husband didn’t agree with her word choices.

Thirty minutes go by, and I get a text from him: “Omg. What kind of overkill email was that? 🤦”

This was yesterday, so today I am at work and I get another series of texts from him where he says essentially that he is completely embarrassed by me.

Her husband just wouldn’t let it go.

That my email was inappropriate to send to his new employer.

He said that he wants to retire from this job and that my language was some kind of Tom Clancy book out of colonial times.

He continues to be needlessly cruel.

He said I overcomplicated it tenfold, and this is why he never asks me for help.

He said every time I am involved, I try to sabotage him, and he regrets it.

AITA for wording the email this way?

Her husband’s reaction says more about his own insecurities than anything else.

What did Reddit think?

The email may not have been perfect, but she still didn’t deserve to be chewed out by her own husband over it.

The email was a problem, but not for the reason her husband thinks.

Maybe her husband isn’t the literary genius he thinks he is.

He really should have just sent his own email.

It takes a real jerk to turn a simple favor into a personal attack.

Next time, maybe he should just focus on sending his own emails.

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