If you didn’t have any children of your own, you might be really excited when you have your first niece or nephew to spoil.

Perhaps you’d want to spend a lot of time with them and spoil them with toys, clothes and other gifts.

In today’s story, one woman is very fond of her nephew, spends a lot of time with him and buys him lots of things.

That’s all great, but is there a point where it becomes too much?

Her husband and her sister-in-law (the nephew’s mother) think she has crossed the line.

Let’s read the whole story.

Aita for telling my wife that her sister’s child isn’t ‘hers’ and she can’t make decisions about him

My wife is very close to her nephew, I think she’s too close.

She spends way too much time with him, almost all her time, and in fact she even started neglecting me and I tried to bring it up to her a few times but she would just tell me that she loves our nephew.

I didn’t pressure her and I thought that since he’s the first son in our families she was just fond of him, normal behaviour towards babies from women something like that.

2 days ago, my sil told my wife that she appreciates that my wife cares about her child so much and loves having her around but my wife cannot make decisions about her child because she’s the mother.

His wife really is making a lot of decisions the boy’s mother should make.

For a bit more context, my wife decides what our nephew would wear, she buys clothes for him, she buys all the necessities for him and she even organised everything on his name day etc.

My wife said that she understands and my wife today told me that it’s unfair for her that she can’t make decisions about her nephew when she also raised him.

He took his sister’s side.

I said that her sister is right, the child isn’t hers she can be in his life and can play a significant role but decisions about him is her mother’s right and you are taking that right away from her.

My wife got mad and she told me that I can’t understand how she feels and I am making fun of her emotions and insulting her.

I didn’t want to argue with her so I apologised without saying anything else to her.

But I don’t know if I am a jerk for telling my wife what I think and for what is right, am I?

It sounds like his wife wants a child of her own and is treating her nephew like her child in the meantime.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

This person thinks OP did the right thing.

Another person thinks his wife might have a deeper issue to work through.

She might want a child of her own.

This person suggests therapy.

It’s pretty crazy that she thinks she’s raising her nephew.

The only thing he did wrong was apologize.

She’s delusional if she thinks she’s raising her nephew.

Maybe some therapy is in order.

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